Saturday, May 29, 2010

Creative Solitude

For replacing bad habits with good ones

Solitude is a blessing for creative artists, thinkers, writers, Sufis, saints and yogis.  But, can ordinary people get any benefit from solitude?  Yes, they can and they should.

Have you ever thought about creating solitude, not to solve a problem but, to derive a conclusion that could change your habits, personality, character and ultimately lifestyle?

Let me explain it the other way.  I remember that until a few years back, perhaps till 2005, whenever I had to stop at a traffic signal and the driver of a public wagon or bus honked his horn to cross the road while the red light was on, I could not tolerate it.  This nastiest act used to enrage me to such an extent that I usually got myself messed up in a sort of brawl with the drivers.  The outcome was always more disturbing for me.  And I am dead sure that it was always only me who regretted, repented and paid a heavy price for it.  Such encounters started causing unfelt damage to my sanity that I realized much later.

Then one evening while I stopped at the red signal, a car pulled right behind me and the driver started honking the horn like hell.  I switched off my bike's engine, went back and asked him if he could see the red signal?  An old lady who looked like the guy’s mother or aunt replied “sorry son, we have a female patient with us and she needs to be in a hospital urgently”.  I moved away my bike and let them pass.

The same night I deliberately created a segment of solitude and put the question to my self, “should I always react outrageously to honking of horns at a red traffic signal?”  My mind presented many cogent reasons and justifiable arguments for doing so.  Yet, my personal and conscious decision was that I would never react like that again and I also swore to myself that I would never cross a red signal unless it would be a matter of saving someone’s life.  I do not cross red signals even at 3:00 a.m. in a chillingly cold winter night!  (Though I never did so since 1970 when I first got a bicycle except for three occasions of extreme emergency.)

Thank Lord, that single decision has saved me from innumerable situations that could have deprived me of my sanity.  I derived some golden resolutions for myself through creative solitude and now:

  • I respect every woman as a woman being regardless of her colour, cast, occupation or activities 
  • I never spit on the road or even on the side-walk 
  • I do not throw wrappers of biscuits or chocolates outside garbage-cans 
  • I do hate smoking, but not smokers any more  
  • I do not attend a mobile phone call while driving or bike-riding  
You can develop good habits or change the bad ones through creative solitude.  Just try once and share your experience with us.

Friday, May 28, 2010

The Magnetic, Attracting Power of the Mind

The power of the mind draws certain events, circumstances and people into our lives and repels others. In this respect, it resembles a magnet. Just look at the people around you. Some pass through certain events and circumstances, while others pass through different experiences. Some accomplish certain things easily, and others accomplish these same things with great difficulty or not at all.

Your mind is composed of the thoughts you think. These thoughts are like magnetic currents. If you think positively about some event or action, you get positive results. If you harbor negative thoughts, this negativity is drawn into your life.

You attract into your life what you think about frequently. It does not mean that every thought gets materialized. Most of the thoughts are weak and are not repeated long enough to gain sufficient strength. Weak thoughts, like a weak magnet, hardly have any attractive power.

You have seen how a magnet draws metal objects. A strong and big magnet draws bigger objects than a small and weak one. Magnets have another peculiar characteristic. One side of the magnet draws, and the other side repels.

The power of attraction is a neutral power. The magnet draws to itself everything made of iron, no matter whether it is a useful object or junk. The mind acts in the same way. It attracts into your life positive and negative situations and events, according to the thoughts that you think.

Like the magnet the mind not only attracts, but also repels. If you do not believe you can get or accomplish something, then you repel it. Thoughts of incompetence, weakness, fear and inferiority create a repellent force. It is as if you are creating a wind that blows away and prevents certain things to reach you.

There are several ways to charge your mind and thoughts with magnetic power. Strong desire, concentration and faith are some of the important ingredients for infusing power into thoughts.

Many activate the magnetic power of their mind unconsciously, without knowing what they are doing. When you know the rules, you become able to activate the magnetic power of your mind consciously, positively and effectively.

Visualizing and thinking with concentration, desire and faith, and repeating these thoughts often, unleashes powerful energy. Your thoughts get radiated and broadcasted, influencing the minds of other people, and attracting to you people who think along the same lines as you do and who can help you with your plans. This process also heightens your awareness and perceptiveness of any opportunity connected with your thoughts that comes your way, and fills you with the inner power and initiative to utilize it.

Why not become conscious of your thoughts, choose to think the ones that are beneficial for you, and consciously and advantageously utilize the power of attraction? You can attract people, circumstances, events, possessions or a life style with the magnetic power of attraction of your mind.

Remember, what you think about intently, with attention and feeling is attracted to you. It can be material and it can be spiritual. The power of attraction is a universal power and manifests everywhere and in everything. It is the power that holds the Universe together. Without it there would not be any world.

© Copyright Remez Sasson
Remez Sasson writes and teaches about self-improvement, positive thinking, creative visualization, success, mind power, spiritual growth and meditation.  He is the author of several books, and the publisher biweekly ezine, “Consciousness and success”.

Visit his website” http://www.successconsciousness.com and find articles, quotes and ebooks.

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Time

It's Sections and How to Mess Them Up

There is a poem written by Michael Anderson that has some wonderfully creative language about Father Time. He describes a picture of an old man titled "Father Time" and then goes on to tell of what happens to himself as he stares at the picture after finding it in the attic. One statement from that poem goes something like this time is but the dream of life, alas, broken into sections. 

Isn't that the truth? Time is broken into sections of age, education, production, history, and tomorrows. The success of each of these depends entirely on our decisions.

We could all learn a lesson from this poem and realize that, we need to relish what we have today for we are assured of nothing in life. We make our life what it is by our choices. We have a mission to follow our leader, God. He and He alone is the one who knows what we will choose. Our job is to find the path He desires us to follow and make sure that we follow it.

This proves to be difficult for me as I like to make my own choices and, frankly, they are not always correct. May I tell you that most of the time I find out that I chose what I wanted and not what was supposed to be? I have lived the life of cleaning up my mistakes. That causes a lot of problems for most of us because it takes time and money to clean up these messes.

I'm not quite sure just why this is the way that I do things. I would suppose that in 69 years I would have learned that God, a much higher being, would know just what the plan is and I should at least consult Him on what I am supposed to be doing. But, alas, somehow I always decide that I know more and have waited long enough for an answer. Then I just make my decisions and pay the price of the consequence later. My new resolve is to really wait on God. I know I can do it.

Barbara Martin is the owner ofhttp://www.clocksforalltimes.com. She believes that clocks can make a home more beautiful. Her website offers a wide variety of wall clocks and other clocks.

Monday, May 24, 2010

Conquering Depression As a God's Warrior

Losing business, job, a loved one, broken relationships, a serious disease or any other setback in life could make a person tense and eventually trigger depressive feelings.

The full-blown depression is a series of episodes of a number of symptoms that occur frequently or infrequently for some time and for different reasons.

These symptoms range from the feelings of being neglected, failed, abandoned, lost, maltreated, used, abused, degraded, insulted, humiliated and hated.  Some or all of these feelings consequently result in different apparent symptoms like:

Anger
Sadness
Distress
Despondence
Nervousness
Feeling Guilty
Seeking Solitude
Extreme Lethargy
Insomnia or Increased Sleep
A Sudden Urge to Weep or Cry
Detachment from Social Activities
No Hunger or Excessive Hunger
Loss or Increase in Weight
Lack of Interest in Life
Suicidal Thoughts

If and when any of the above or similar symptoms appears, a lot depends on the person who experiences these negative emotions and thoughts and equally on those who are close to him/her like family, relatives, friends, colleagues and acquaintances.

The victim of depression can handle the crisis if he/she has some prior knowledge about it and realizes the effectiveness and importance of positive thinking.

It is normally advised by the experts that if any five of the above symptoms keep disturbing a person for about two weeks, he/she must consult with the family doctor or a specialist and seek help.

However, if the victim does not feel comfortable with doctors or psychiatrists and symptoms persist, he/she can get rid of it through different methods tested and applied by many individuals. 

The writer is also one of those exceptional people who fall victim to the severe type of suicidal depression, due to total loss of investment in business that resulted in immediate bankruptcy. 

In case of not taking any psychiatric treatment and medication, the victim of depression can certainly overcome it through the following surefire strategies:

Be the warrior of God

Rest assured that The Creator loves you more than anyone else in the whole universe.  What He simply wants is to see you face the challenges of life like a brave warrior.  Looking at things with this angle of vision means that you have got to fight back as a warrior of God to defeat hyper tension and depression.

God loves to see you stand up on your own like parents enjoy their crawling baby to learn standing up in spite of falling again and again.
If you understand this reality, your triumph over depression is definite.

Be positive to the extent of obduracy

This tendency is the most powerful weapon not only against depression but any crisis in life.  Obduracy, here, does not mean to be rigid to logic or reality.  It is, in fact, standing firm on your grounds and never let the negative feelings overwhelm you at any cost.

Such obduracy reinforces your resistance against the flood of negative thoughts and emotions that tend to destroy your personal integrity and devastate your self-confidence.

Discover your strengths through self-talk

Self-talk is not an expression of abnormal behaviour.  You will find it most energizing in times of crisis.  The easiest way to explore your inner strengths and vigor is to talk to you at length.  And remember, it is not necessary that you speak words loudly.  You would be communicating with your inner self and the best method of this communication is through deeper thoughts.  Loud words would rather cause a distraction. 

Self talk is close to meditation, but it is not meditation.  You have to be fully awake and aware of your surroundings. You may feel your conscious self standing face to face with the unconscious mind. 

Such an exercise requires very strong conviction in the legitimacy, genuineness and validity of what you are going to do.  The faintest shadow of doubt could cause cracks in your belief and derail your train of thoughts.

Engage yourself in some activity obsessively

What I have learnt from my personal encounter with a suicidal depression is that the quicker you create a long break between two consecutively occurring negative thoughts, the sooner you get out of the sphere of negative energy.  And if you despise taking medicine like me, it is only possible through getting yourself engaged in any positive activity you are obsessed with.

A deep involvement in any activity whether it is reading, playing some sport, internet browsing, writing or doing some creative work, widens the gap between two bombarding negative thoughts, that may devastate your personal integrity and will power, to overcome the nerve-shattering depression.

I discovered that initially an objective internet surfing and lately blogging kept me so much engaged that I forgot, though for some time, all of my problems, tensions and crisis.  Staying at my computer for longer hours, rather for the whole day and whole night except sleeping hours, widened the space between negative thoughts and gave me incredible relief from depressive and negative thoughts.

Keep thinking about the most loved person (s)

This most loved person could be any one from your mother, father, spouse, children, brother, sister or some friend.  There should definitely be at least one single person on earth that you care about.  The one whose peace of mind prevents you from doing anything wrong that could hurt him emotionally, physically or spiritually. 

My depression and disgustingly negative behaviour of some people pushed me to the brink of mental collapse that ultimately results in committing undesirable acts.  I felt myself on the edge of hurting myself or those who were deliberately or unconsciously pushing me into the quagmire of desperation.  I wish they could realize the intensity of the pressure of circumstances from my angle of vision.

Every time I felt close to committing something that I could never have a chance to regret, I thought about my dear daughters.  I do not need any certificate of appreciation from any one, but the truth is my third powerful weapon against the suicidal depression was my love for my daughters.

Push yourself beyond your own limits

Compose all of your energies and strengths to become an aggressive and intense force against the negative emotions and thoughts.  There are very few people who push themselves beyond their own limits and gain victory over all the odds.

You are no exception.  It is a tragedy that you are not aware of your own potential strengths and perhaps it is so because no one has every told you to do so.

Ok, stand up now, and make up your mind, with an unwavering determination to not ever surrender to unfavourable circumstances under any conditions.

The moment you do so, God will express His pleasure with a big wide smile!





Friday, May 21, 2010

SUCCESS – SUCCESS – SUCCESS

Flood Your Mind With Success - - - 

To some people the word Success is like climbing Mount Everest, particularly those who are not in the habit of setting high goals and thus not thinking positively, aggressively, passionately, obsessively to achieve them.  These are the people who unconsciously tend to leave their plane of life flying on auto-pilot.  They are not failures, but rather lethargic and complacent.

Success itself becomes a mammoth obstacle for people who do not look beyond the passing moment.  The legendary Henry Ford said about a hundred years ago “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.”  Perfectly correct description of obstacles.

Any recipe of success requires the following three basic ingredients:

  1. Goal

A clearly defined goal is, in fact, the driving force that keeps you in action till you achieve it.  Here, I would like you to understand the difference between a goal and a dream.  Dreams are not tagged with a validity of time, but goals are and that is why they never let you opt for an auto-pilot.

So, choose your goals wisely and realistically.

  1. Obsession

No driving force can work without continuous supply of a fuel.  The existence of obsession acts like a fuel for the vehicle of a gratifying accomplishment.  The stronger and deeper the passion, the better the quality of fuel is.   

And your obsession should not be a hypothetical fantasy.

  1. Action

Action plays the role of a driver that is you.  It solely depends upon you just how you control your vehicle preserving the fuel and moving in the right direction.  There is always a first step towards initiating action.  This first step is the beginning of the process of success.

Action needs positive thinking radiating the waves of energy that always result in success.

The best formula for achieving success is flooding your mind with the feelings of success. Instead of engaging your mind on the long process and modus operandi of achieving success, focus the whole of your personality and character on one thing that you have already achieved success.
This is what I call "think succeeded". Push your mind to the limit where it sends you a series of SMS messages that you have succeeded.
Overwhelming your brain with achieved success will keep you concentrating on passionately moving ahead on the path to success, success and success.
Success initiates with the very first step of setting a goal before you. Here is an example of the colossal importance of a goal:
Just imagine what would happen in a soccer field if only the two goal-posts are removed and twenty two players are directed to play the game? I do not have to explain scenario in detail. There is only one word to describe the situation "chaos".
Success haunts only those people who avoid bothering about setting goals. The concept of life without goals, challenges and action is like accepting defeat without entering the battlefield.
All the awards, rewards, appreciation, applause and honours are for the action heroes, not for the lethargic and complacent zombies who opt for auto-pilot.
Wake up from the slumber, create goals, fill your mind with success and go all out for action

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Successful Sales

Sell Yourself First, Product Later - - -


Last week I had to get my motorbike tyre changed. While I was enquiring about prices of different brands of tyres, (It was almost two years ago when I last got a tyre for my bike. Hence, I had no idea of increased prices) a young salesman (let’s call him Mr. X) of motorbike spare parts came to take order. The spare-parts shop owner fabricated justifiable excuses for not placing any immediate orders.


The young Mr. X, a fresh college graduate, looked very much disappointed, rather disheartened. I just dared to put my arm around his shoulder and took him aside. I explained to him what I had noticed:


LACK OF CONFIDENCE 


If you are not sure of your own presentation ability, you cannot make other people have confidence in whatever you intend to convey to them.


UNPROMISING ATTITUDE


Your way of communication helps others determine the type of your personality and gauge the abilities of delivering your message.


PITIABLE BODY LANGUAGE


Your body gestures are definite indicators of your state of mind and intentions. In fact, body language transmits the very first signals, to any one you meet, of assurance or warning about how to deal with you.


POOR BELIEF IN PRODUCT’S QUALITY


Being a successful sales person you have to have a strong belief in the quality of the product that you are determined to sell. It is not that easy to make others empty their pockets in exchange with a product of poor quality. It is your statement that pledges the quality of your product and induces the prospective buyer.


MISSING THE CONTENT OF CONVINCING


Even if you have mixed all the above ingredients in your sales-talk and the basic content of convincing is missing from the recipe, you cannot enjoy your feast of a successful done-deal. Convincing is directly linked with your body language i.e. your eye contact, upheld face, firm standing or sitting, movement of hands at the appropriate moments, levels of voice and selection of words.


My last piece of advice was to never again wear the T-shirt that implied his being a mommy’s little child, for it delivers a clear message to the person you encounter that your maturity level is not up to the requirement for the job of a sales person.


So, my dear young fellas watch out each of your single step before leaving for your outdoor sales and marketing campaign. You are going to sell yourself first by making a positive, aggressive and dominating impression. The product comes later.


There are thousands of salesmen who know the art of selling products of low quality simply putting the buyer in a no-retreat position.


Note :


I am not an advocate of deceiving the prospects regarding quality and durability of your products. Simply explain the real value of the product and never exaggerate it to the extent of deliberate deception.















Tuesday, May 18, 2010

The Power of Positive Attitude


by Remez Sasson

Positive attitude helps to cope more easily with the daily affairs of life. It brings optimism into your life, and makes it easier to avoid worry and negative thinking. If you adopt it as a way of life, it will bring constructive changes into your life, and makes them happier, brighter and more successful. With a positive attitude you see the bright side of life, become optimistic and expect the best to happen. It is certainly a state of mind that is well worth developing and strengthening.

Positive attitude manifests in the following ways:

Positive thinking.

Constructive thinking.

Creative thinking.

Expecting success.

Optimism.

Motivation to accomplish your goals.

Being inspired.

Choosing happiness.

Not giving up.

Looking at failure and problems as blessings in disguise.

Believing in yourself and in your abilities.

Displaying self-esteem and confidence.

Looking for solutions.

Seeing opportunities.

A positive attitude leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If you look at the bright side of life, your whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but also your whole environment and the people around you. If it is strong enough, it becomes contagious.

The benefits of a positive attitude:

Helps achieving goals and attaining success.

Success achieved faster and more easily.

More happiness.

More energy.

Greater inner power and strength.

The ability to inspire and motivate yourself and others.

Fewer difficulties encountered along the way.

The ability to surmount any difficulty.

Life smiles at you.

People respect you.

Negative attitude says: you cannot achieve success.
Positive attitude says: You can achieve success.

If you have been exhibiting a negative attitude and expecting failure and difficulties, it is now the time to change the way you think. It is time to get rid of negative thoughts and behavior and lead a happy and successful life. Why not start today? If you have tried and failed, it only means that you have not tried enough.

Developing a positive attitude that will lead you to happiness and success:

- Choose to be happy.

- Look at the bright side of life.

- Choose to be and stay optimistic.

- Find reasons to smile more often.

- Have faith in yourself and in the Power of the Universe.

- Contemplate upon the futility of negative thinking and worries.

- Associate yourself with happy people.

- Read inspiring stories.

- Read inspiring quotes.

- Repeat affirmations that inspire and motivate you.

- Visualize only what you want to happen.

- Learn to master your thoughts.

- Learn concentration and meditation.

Following even only one of the above suggestions, will bring more light into your life!


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NOTE :  


Remez Sasson is one of those mentors (besides Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy, Deepak Chopra) I found during internet browsing and whose articles on positive thinking transformed me from a pessimist to optimist and converted me into a big-mouth advocate of positive thinking.  


Their words did wonderful magic because they are honest in educating people and imparting their knowledge, creative thinking and achievements to the whole world sincerely, honestly and responsibly with a great passion and obsession.


I wish he and others read this compliment some day.


Saalik Siddikki

Power of a Super Attitude

Positive thinking and a positive attitude may indeed have power.

That belief has long been conjecture, but in recent years scientists studying the mind-body connection are finding that an optimistic outlook can improve more than just mental health.

Christopher Reeve's death this week, nine years after being paralyzed in a horseback riding accident is, to some researchers, an example of just how Reeve's positive attitude during his post-accident life surely contributed to an improved physical state.

"There is no doubt in my mind his positive attitude extended his life — probably dramatically. The fact that it didn't allow him to recover function of all limbs is besides the point," said Carol Ryff, a psychology professor at the University of Wisconsin-Madison who has been studying whether or not high levels of psychological well-being benefit physical health.

"There is a science that is emerging that says a positive attitude isn't just a state of mind," she says. "It also has linkages to what's going on in the brain and in the body."
Ryff has shown that individuals with higher levels of well-being have lower cardiovascular risk, lower levels of stress hormones and lower levels of inflammation, which serves as a marker of the immune system.

Her research on positive mental states is among 44 current grants funded by the National Institutes of Health evaluating optimism. Most research in this area has focused on negative feelings, such as how stress, anxiety and depression affect physical health.
"Science in this area is at the very beginning," Ryff said. "For a long period of time, you couldn't even get funding to do research like this because there was such a preoccupation with illness and dysfunction."

Hard to measure happiness

It's clear that stressors produce abnormal changes in the immune system, said Ronald Glaser, director of Ohio State University's Institute for Behavioral Medicine Research. Glaser and his wife, Janice Kiecolt-Glaser, a clinical psychologist also at Ohio State, studied the mind-body connection and found that chronic stress and psychological stress can impede wounds from healing, may impair the effectiveness of vaccines and can weaken the immune system of caregivers.

Kiecolt-Glaser says there is less definitive work on the benefits of a positive outlook because clearly defined scales, such as those used for measuring depression, don't exist for studying happiness. That makes a positive attitude much more difficult to quantify.
"In laboratories, there are lots of easy ways to make people depressed or anxious for a long period of time. It's harder to make people happy," she says. "The whole distress, anxiety, depression part matters more, from everything we know, than positive emotions. It's not as easy to see a positive effect."

The scientific recognition of a mind-body connection in health is gathering steam. Once the purview of new-age books that claim to show the path to healing, the evidence is in the rise in clinical trials: The NIH last year funded $143 million of mind-body research, with estimates of $149 million for 2004 and $153 million for 2005.

"Mind-body medicine is now scientifically proven," says Herbert Benson, a cardiologist and associate professor of medicine at Harvard Medical School who is considered a pioneer in the field. "There are literally thousands of articles on how the mind and brain affect the body."

Benson, author of 10 books, is founding president of the Mind/Body Medical Institute in Boston, a non-profit organization devoted to studying interactions between mind and body. He says Reeve's focus on improving the plight of others with disabilities, like Michael J. Fox's work with Parkinson's disease, in some ways may help them personally more than they realize.

"When a person can focus on something other than illness, it allows the body to take advantage of our own healing capacity," says Benson. "Hope in something beyond the illness and dedicating oneself to cures for the illness" rather than dwelling on oneself and one's illness "gives purpose to life," and helps prevent the negative effects of stress while medical science does its work.

Feel-good alternatives

Medical science also is taking note of alternative medicine. Craig Hospital in Englewood, Colo., has worked with the Reeve Paralysis Foundation to benefit those with spinal cord injuries. Terry Chase, the hospital's coordinator of patient and family education, has been confined to a wheelchair since being hit by a drunken driver while riding her bicycle 16 years ago. She says the hospital's alternative medicine program provides acupuncture, massage and aromatherapy to help patients feel better and stay positive.

She says they do "whatever we can to put people in a better place for their own healing — whatever healing they're going to have," she said. "We can't say it will cure them, but it may help them feel better and be more relaxed."

Perhaps one of the most vocal advocates for the power of a positive attitude is Bernie Siegel, a surgeon, author and motivational speaker known for such books as Love, Medicine & Miracles and Peace, Love & Healing.

"When people are willing to make an effort to cure what's incurable, I'll work with them," he says. "What goes on in your head affects your body."

But the message of well-intentioned morale-boosters such as Siegel sometimes is misunderstood by those who expect too much from the power of the mind and mistakenly think positive thoughts will bring about miraculous physical healing.

Ryff says people need to think not in terms of a cure, but of a better life.

"It's putting an impossible burden on the power of positive thinking to say in all cases, if this stuff really works, people should be cured. The right way to think is that this positive attitude orientation can actually keep life worth living and can possibly extend the period of life you have," she says. "It won't make the disease go away."

Creative Power and the Failure Mindset

By Robert E Darby


The Failure Mindset


We all experience successes and failures during the course of normal creative activity, they are natural indicators of results. But the idea of failure can get out of control and become a complete mindset that begins to feed and perpetuate itself in ways that create limiting conditions on our consciousness, and thereby shut down many of the unlimited possibilities that are a natural consequence to our creative power. Once we determine that we are under the influence of such a mindset, is there anything that we can do about it? Or will it continue to hold us back and drag us down forever denying us the creative success that is our birthright?


The failure mindset is usually established in our early years due to social and physical environmental influences. However, in some cases it can be established by a consecutive series of unusual negative events that we are little prepared for by strength and character. A short article doesn't allow for a thorough examination of the origins of the failure mindset, but I will provide a link to a good resource on this at the end of this article. Instead, it is much more important to take a look at what the failure mindset is and how it works and possibly some ways to counter it.


We Are What We Believe


If we were to distill success and failure down to their simplest basics we could say something like 'if we believe we are successful, then we will be successful, and if we believe we are failures, then we will be failures'. While this is actually true, it doesn't give us any clue to what kind of challenges we are up against or how to go about meeting those challenges. The most powerful concept to be aware of here is that of conditioning. Virtually all our thinking and behavior patterns are established through this powerful behavior modification technique. And its power is in its simplicity. That which we are exposed to repeatedly over time, will become a habitual pattern in us.


The failure mindset is created and maintained by the negative limiting thought patterns that we have allowed to be established in our conscious and subconscious mind, and once we have bought into them we then become the caretakers of these negative failure and defeat oriented thinking habits, and in this way we ourselves help to perpetuate them. That we have allowed them to exist, and maintain them with the thoughts of our own mind is proof that we have the creative power to do something about those thinking patterns.


Creative Power


Though creative power is natural to the human species, it doesn't come fully developed as standard equipment. We have become a mentally lazy species and it is not too difficult to understand why. Our mind and spirit is not the easiest landscape to be exploring, especially since it requires the development of self awareness and self discipline, two of the least popular objectives on everyone's to do list. But if we truly want to affect changes in our lives, we need to bite the bullet and resign ourselves to some hard work.


Developing self awareness and self discipline isn't likely to reach epidemic proportions in today's superficially orientated civilization where the gratification of self serving adolescent desires is the primary driving force and agenda. Which only makes our objectives that much harder to achieve, there will not be a long line of those wishing to help and support you in your effort. So, be prepared for a tough and often lonely journey. Developing the character traits of self awareness and self discipline are part of the larger journey of developing our greatest capability which is our unlimited creative power, and there are some tools available to help us get there.


Tools And Equipment


The task of changing out long established negative thinking and behavior patterns with shiny new positive and constructive ones is much like a journey, and this journey may require that we take little mini journeys on the way. Don't worry, you can do it, many others have traveled this path successfully and so can you. But you will need some tools and equipment to not only help get you there, but get you over the occasional bumps as well. Meditation is going to be your Swiss Army Knife and most important tool. Now, don't throw up your hands in despair at this. Most people don't have any idea of just how useful this tool can be. But you have to get past all those traditional images of monks in the Himalayas and start thinking skill saws, hammers and levels.
Though our tools may be spiritual, they can be used for practical activities as well. I personally use meditation techniques for achieving both spiritual and material world objectives with great success. Please, have some faith here. So, your tools will be meditation, visualization, affirmations, self suggestion and self talk. Your equipment will be patience, will, determination, commitment, belief and faith in yourself. Again, I am not able to get deeply into these in a short article, but the link below will take you to the best resource available on all these subjects.



Get exposed to the full array of Human power revealed in the e-book Success Failure and theSecrets of Unlimited Power.
Robert Darby is a self change and personal development specialist who writes for many organizations including The Agenda Of Life Foundation He focuses on developing personal power since that is usually the cause of all Human problems. Robert takes a practical approach in that he looks at the various tools and techniques out there that are designed to help us achieve our mental, spiritual and emotional goals.

When Champions Fail

By Jayesh Tekchandaney


"The IPL is not just about cricket. There are a lot of things happening around it. The players must be smart about it. They have to respect the body, give it some time to recover because it's not just about playing. There have been day-night matches, then parties, and then early morning flights too. All this, including the travel, takes a toll." That's what M.S.Dhoni said in justification, after India's disastrous performance at the T20 World Cup this year.


The same captain led the Chennai Super Kings to the IPL T20 win less than three weeks before the ouster of Team India from the World Cup. And going by his theory, whatever happened during the IPL was what caused the World Cup disaster. These words coming from "Captain Cool" are no more than an excuse for failure. Even though I have a lot of respect for the man who brought us the first T20 World Cup, I wish that rather than blaming the IPL for the World Cup failure he should have analyzed the real reasons for the failure, graciously accepted the mistakes and took some lessons from it.


This article is not about Team India's failure at the T20 World Cup in West Indies. It is about learning to deal with failure, the way the real champions do.


Failure like death is inevitable. As J.K.Rowling told the Harvard graduating class, "It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all-in which case, you fail by default." Failure comes to all. But what is important is how you decide to deal with it.


John Wooden, the legendary basketball coach says, you aren't a failure until you start to blame. What he means is that you can still be in the process of learning from your mistakes until you begin denying them. That's where the problem begins. As human beings, we always find excuses for not succeeding. We often lay a blame on someone else or something that was responsible for our failure. And so do the champions, after all they are human beings too.


The legendary tennis player John McEnroe often tried to repair his self-esteem after losing by assigning blame or making excuses. Going by his own judgment it was never his fault - it was always the outside forces. One time he lost a match because he had fever. Another time he had a backache. Sometimes he fell victim to expectations, other times to the tabloids. One loss was because he ate too close to the match. He lost some games because it was cold. He lost others because he could not cope up with the heat. Sometimes he was under-trained, at other times he was over-trained. His most painful loss was to Even Lendl in the 1984 French Open. Why did he lose after leading 2 sets to nil? According to McEnroe, it wasn't his fault. An NBC cameraman had taken off his headset and a noise started coming from the side of the court.


The problem with John McEnroe was that he did not accept his failure. He did not want to learn from the failure. He did not thrive on challenges; when the going got tough, he often folded. As a result, by his own admission he did not fulfill his potential. After his playing days he confessed that his on-court temper tantrums were only a cover for not playing well. Instead of finding the real reasons for losing, he made excuses. Instead of getting back the basics right and practicing hard, he relied purely on his natural talent. He was the number one player in the world for four years - but he was a champion who did not know how to deal with failure.


On the other hand, Michael Jordan is a great example about success through failure. In a commercial for Nike-famous for its failure-defying tagline "Just do it"-Jordan says, "I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I've been trusted to take the game winning shot, and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life-and that is why I succeed."


Michael Jordon wasn't a natural talent. He was cut from the high school varsity team. He worked hard to get back. He left his home at six in the morning to get in some hours of practice before school. Then at the University of North Carolina, he worked on what he thought were his weaknesses - his defensive game, his ball handling and shooting skills. Once, after his team lost the last game of the season, Jordon went back to the court and practiced his shots for hours - he had started his preparations for the next year. He is probably one of the hardest-working athletes in the history of sport. Only once did he take it easy. It was the year he returned to the Bulls after his stint in baseball. The Bulls were eliminated in the play-offs. Jordon learned his lesson, "You can't leave and think you can come back and dominate this game. I will be physically and mentally prepared from now on." For the next three years, the Chicago Bulls won the NBA title. With Michael Jordon the Chicago Bulls won six NBA championships. "I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying," said Michael Jordan.


This is something which M.S. Dhoni and the Indian team should make note of. The team didn't train after either of the first two defeats in the Super-8's games. "What do we gain in a day's practice. We thought it would be better to take some time off and turn up fresh for the games," argued Dhoni.


Sports can be a great teacher - the lessons of this article are not just for the Indian cricket team. They are for all of us. We have to learn to deal with our failures. Failures are not always bad. A failure is a pit-stop on the journey to success. Failure is a feedback. Failure shows what doesn't work. Failure tells us that something needs to be fixed. Failure has a positive power in that we learn we can survive, go on, and discover talents previously hidden. Most importantly - failure humbles, it reminds us that we are not supermen but human beings who will some day fall to ground.


Failure is so painful that it almost guarantees that we won't make the same mistakes again. When we fail, we are at the bottom. We have nothing more to lose. And the only place to go is up. The golfer Bobby Jones said, "I never learned anything from a match I won". He respected defeat and he profited from it. It's important to be able to forget the pain of failure while retaining the lessons from it.


Tiger Woods commented in the 2006 Buick interview. "Oh, a lot. It's just experience. I've put myself in so many different scenarios and have been successful and have failed, and I've had to learn from both. Why did I fail? Well, because of this. Why did I succeed? Well, because of this. You have to analyze, you have to be critical, and you have to understand that you have to take hard looks at yourself. Over the years I've done that, and I think that's one of the reasons why I've been able to keep progressing through the years. Trust me, it's not always easy, but my father has always harped on me, always be honest with yourself, true to yourself, look yourself in the mirror and be honest. Some days are tougher than others. When you know you've absolutely messed up, you have to admit it and move on and learn and apply. And I've done that." This message needs get across to Mr. Dhoni and his team.


P.S. - The only problem with failure is that, we as human beings perceive failure as an identity. That's because, "I failed to..." is perceived as "I am a failure". As a result, most people fear failure. Failure is not an identity, it is only a judgment about an event. What matters is how we cope with failure, not the event itself. "Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time we fall" - Confucius



Business Owner, Management Guru, Industrialist, Engineer, Cultural Commentator and Intellectual Adventurer, Jayesh Tekchandaney was born in 1976 in Mumbai in a higly educated family. He grew up in Mumbai and graduated with a degree in Chemical Engineering in 1998. He then pursued a Business Management Diploma followed by a Masters In Industrial Engineering from The Pennsylvania State University, USA. His curiosity, interests and creativity are shown in his Research Thesis on "Web Based Product Customization And Consumer Brand Experience", ranging over a wide array of subjects like manufacturing, mass customization, advertising, web site design, brand perception.


With Business Interests in Manufacturing and Information Technology, the author uses all his education and experience to train team members and colleagues towards building a world class organization. A keen and very sharp observer of life the author has a unique quality of relating to daily events in a subtle way to draw constructive conclusions.


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Success Through Positive Thinking and Optimism


When our thinking is optimistic and positive, our subconscious mind gets tuned to the success in all our endeavors. It puts forth ideas, which will bring success in all matters, which normally look quite difficult to accomplish. Great Mathematical genius Ramanujam used to say that the solutions to many intricate formulae used to come to him while in deep sleep.

A positive approach towards our problems brings the proper mindset to tackle the issues. A famous example, which used to be quoted in study circles, is like this: Two salesmen were sent to a backward country in Africa where people do not wear footwear and they were asked about the prospects of sales of footwear items thereof. The negative approach sales representative submitted a report wherein he pointed out the futility of trying to sell footwear to people who are not aware of the benefits of them. Contrary to his approach, the positive approach salesperson found a great opportunity for footwear sales in that area. He pointed out that a very great market is at their disposal, when people are taught about the benefits of the footwear use.

Negative feelings are necessary to a certain extant. They are the natural aids for self-preservation. Nevertheless, if the negative thoughts are always permitted to come in the way of rational analysis of the problems, then there will be no progress in any field. Great opportunities will come and pass unutilized.

Optimistic people also get into problems like others only. The difference is there in their approach and faith that there is always a solution to every problem. Their objective is to tide over the problems as early as possible, with or without the help of others.

Positive minded people attract like-minded people and in times of crises, solve their difficulties with full confidence in their destiny. Because of their bent of mind, ideas come to them for solving the problems. Their mindset is attuned towards success.

Negative minded people always see conspiracies by others to pull them down in life. They suspect every body and attribute mala fide intentions to their actions. They consequently lead a very miserable life and ruin their health also because of this approach of negativity.
Whereas optimistic people bring cheer and happiness to those around them, pessimists ruin their lives as well as of those near and dear to them.

Let us all be optimists, have faith in God, and believe that only good things will happen to us.

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Saturday, May 15, 2010

Best Seeds for Best Crop

Life is a one time game and whatever approach you apply to fulfill your desires, achieve your goals and select the ways to move ahead, just remember one thing: always radiate positive energy to keep the ambiance warm with love, sincerity, courage, hopes, passions and positive growth.

You can play your due role to beautify this world by doing your best to derive pleasure and gratification through any means that you have in your access but without hurting others.  



What you are reaping today is the result of what others sowed in the past and what you sow today will be reaped by the future generations.  So, be concerned, watchful and careful in selecting the best seeds to sow today to grow into the best crop tomorrow.

Simply beautify the space that you occupy, your home, your office, your city or wherever you happen to go by planting siblings of caring and sharing attitude.  By doing so you would be leaving your footprints that may lead an individual or a crowd to the gardens of happiness, pleasure, joy, peace and gratification.

God bless you with the best of everything in life!

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Be Ruthless With Yourself

I seek pardon from you friends and visitors of Think SUCCEEDED for not writing anything since May 7 except updating Motivational Quotes, for two reasons.  First,  I have had some personal challenges to counter and settle.  Second, a couple of acquaintances needed some pep-talk to overcome, rather conquer, their depression.  My heart and soul bow down, in total humility, to The Almighty for giving me an opportunity, strength and timely understanding to help them get out of the quagmire of negative thinking, self pity and pessimism.


Being able to rescue someone from the tentacles of suicidal depression is so gratifying that you have the feelings of rebirth for your own self.  It makes the chords of your heart and soul move to the tune of heavenly symphony.  The truth is it simply cannot be explained through words.


Sometimes, it is so disheartening to see a young man of 25, well educated and admirably good looking, bent upon destroying his own life and others' too simply for not having the strength to face challenges of daily life.


I met one such guy last weekend.  He had been threatening his parent, for some time, to commit suicide for no apparent reason.  The whole family was badly disturbed and concerned about him.  Everybody in his family, parents, sisters, brothers, cousins, tried to learn the reasons, but to no avail.


Some thought he might have had a love affair and there could be problems with the gal.  His parents assumed that he had difficulties in getting along with his employers.  They all tried their best to pacify him and persuaded to share his problem with them both collectively and individually.  


When a friend invited me to have a little pep-talk with the guy, I put my hand on his shoulder after initial handshaking and straightly asked him to help me find a shop where I could have a glass of fresh apple-milk shake and got him out of his house.  While he was driving to a nearby market, I asked him to stop by a small public park.  He looked puzzled and a quizzical expression on his face demanded a cogent reason for that.


I told him I wanted to have some fresh air in the peaceful atmosphere of the park.  It was around 9:30 p.m.  


We stayed there till 11:00 p.m. and had a lot of talk about trivialities of life. My sole purpose was to detach him from the people, his family indeed, who were less interested in learning his real challenges that were disturbing him.  Their main emphasis was on making him agree to the opinion of each one of them.  That was a fatal mistake.


I came to know that he had no core issue that was playing havoc with his emotions, feelings, thinking and behaviour.  He was simply overwhelmed with unfocused thoughts, overload of small tasks in the office without getting any help from colleagues, traffic problems like extremely disturbing noises of vehicles, especially the three-wheelers locally called 'ching chee', smoke and dust pollution and an incessant series of SMS messages that always kept his mobile phone's memory full.  I did my best to dig out if he had a love-affair that he bluntly and repeatedly denied. 


It was not difficult for me to grasp the intensity of torture that he was trying hard to bear.  He was seriously thinking about quitting his job because his parents could not afford to give him a car and motorcycle riding on the overcrowded roads was taking its toll.  


This is the tragedy of our society.  The double standards by the rulers.  The nasty three-wheeler is not allowed in the posh areas like Defense Housing Society, Government Officers' Residences and like that.  The rest of the city is on the mercy of the drivers of these sonic-boom breakers that also emit smoke that radiates the most dangerous and poisonous toxins in the air.  


The so-called democratic rulers cannot even imagine the lethal effects of such a noise and smoke pollution damaging the health of middle class that is the real back bone of any society.


The tempting packages offered by the mobile phone services providers are causing an unimaginable damage to our society encouraging young men and women to indulge in indecent chats, message spamming, wrong calls and a never ending series of religious messages which are educational and informative but not if they block the memory of your mobile phone.


Both the federal and provincial governments should take notice of these problems that common man faces every moment of every day.


Note :  The guy I talked about is now using ear-plugs, a mask and helmet, has changed his route for going to and returning from office and has started a blog about his personal musings.


My key advice to him was ' be ruthless with yourself, with circumstances and with your fate and whenever indispensably necessary, also with obdurate people '.  


Being ruthless with yourself does not mean to adopt a negative attitude towards things and affairs of life.  It means never to allow yourself to fall victim to self-pity, complacent mind-set and weakened state of mind.  The Almighty God has clearly said that He does not overburden any person with an unbearable load.  The verse of the holy Quran describing the above assurance from God has strengthened my belief that whatever the circumstances are, provided I do not commit a blunder myself, He is always on my side desiring and demanding me to make full use of my energies, potentials and inner strengths.


So, my friends, be ruthless with yourself.