Monday, August 23, 2010

A Brutal Mental Block !

Every writer has to encounter the so notorious writer's block during the process of his writing career.  The reasons could be different in each individual case.

Similarly, I am also facing an unmanageable block that I have termed as 'Brutal Mental Block' since I, along with the whole Pakistani nation and the rest of the world, watched the following video that first went on air 4 days after the unbelievable tortured killing of two young boys.

I really don't feel up to posting the video separately on each of my blogs.  You might already have watched it either on Pakistani television channels or on Facebook or YouTube.

In case, that you missed it and simply want to know the depth and reality of my current state of mind, you can watch a low definition video on my following blog : 

Trying to compose myself and hope to be with you very soon.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

How to Quit Drinking - An Alcoholic's Story

I started drinking regularly when I was sixteen years old, I enjoyed the confidence drink gave me as I had always been a shy and retiring type. I found drink enabling in the beginning and I enjoyed having scores of drinking companions and many sexual encounters. I was never without a girlfriend, but every relationship I had failed because of my drinking habits and lack of respect for my partners.

I used to get in some shameful states, missed a lot of work, drove whilst drunk, embarrassed myself in public, my sexual promiscuity brought me into contact with sexually transmitted diseases including Chlamydia and genital warts. In the early days of problem drinking though you are usually forgiven for being inebriated, you may lose some friends due to your behavior, but generally people are very forgiving.

When I was in my twenties I had the misfortune of becoming incontinent if I drank more than five pints of beer in an evening. Alcohol had started to do some real damage to my body, but I still continued. It wasn't too much of a headache then as I just made sure I didn't go over the five drink limit. I found I could still drink more as long as switched to spirits after reaching my self imposed limit without fear of wetting myself. However, sometimes I'd still drink too much and would wake the next day finding my strategy had failed.

When you're drinking too much your body will give you warnings and give you a rude awakening, but when alcoholism kicks in one tends to ignore the signs and continue anyway. I also tried to kill myself a few times whilst drinking and have several scars on my arms where I attempted suicide. I did my best to hide the scars on my arms, because I did feel ashamed of my behaviour, but I still continued to drink.

Relationships became more of an issue, I could never be faithful when I'd been drinking, I just didn't give a damn what I did and I started to realize that alcohol was not making me confident anymore and I had become more insecure. I met some people over the years who were not impressed by my alcoholism, but I thought it was they who had the problem rather than myself. I mean, I never got physically aggressive, I'd say and do some dumb things, but I didn't consider my behaviour to be too severe. My parents and my employers expressed some concerns about my drinking, but I continued to drink regardless.

Along the way I became a father to three children and my alcoholism entered a controlled state for once. It was more important to ensure that my children were properly provided for, than to feed my habit. I'd still drink but cut down to a large bottle of cider once a week and a "binge" once a month. I discovered home brewed alcohol during that time, finding I could make alcohol for pennies. So once again my alcohol intake increased. I went to university as a mature student and took a degree in computing, at University my drinking increased further, due to cheap alcohol prices and new drinking buddies.

Surprisingly I graduated with a 2:2 in computing and then started working in the Computing industry. In the late 1990's Information Technology was paying some really crazy money, for a while I was taking home $1200 a week. Affording booze was never a problem in those days.

My problem drinking was affecting my work though, and once again my relationship,  I was put on Prozac (antidepressant) which when mixed with alcohol, completely intoxicated me, I really was "not of this planet" at that time and I lost my job, my relationship ended bitterly and my children were sadly affected by the split. Once again on my own, my drinking spiralled out of control, I'd start the day with several cans of really strong cider and I'd continue to drink throughout the day. Every day I drove whilst inebriated, risking not only my own life, but the lives of others.

I started my own I.T business and started to make a reasonable amount of money. (I dread to imagine what my clients must have thought about me because I was always mildly drunk). The business started to grow though and in a short time I had four employees. Getting alcohol was never an issue, I could buy as much as I wanted with company checks, but I was dissatisfied and after getting a new girlfriend, quit the business and moved to Wales.
The language barrier made it hard to set up a company in the area and without work, I reverted to drinking a 2 liter bottle of very strong alcohol a day. The relationship was co-dependent and I was pleased to have a partner who enabled my drinking. I continually drove whilst drunk, the relationship was very challenging but solid, until insecurity really started to get to me. 

I started to believe my girlfriend was cheating on me and really started to lose my mind. I decided once and for all in 2006 that I was going to quit drinking after taking an overdose. I tried Alcoholics Anonymous, but it didn't work for me so I did a lot of research and found a way to stop drinking on my own without support.

Three years on I am happily married,never relapsed, I have several successful online ventures and I know that I will never drink again. People in the house frequently drink around me and it doesn't bother me, apart from when they're very drunk! I know now that inebriated people are not good company and I can sympathize with those people I annoyed whilst drunk. I can't say that it's been an easy ride since quitting alcohol as I've had to deal with my insecurities without an alcoholic crutch, but I'm happy these days and the future does look good..

It's incredible, once I couldn't imagine a life without alcohol, now I can't imagine a life with it!

If you want to stop drinking you can download my ebook describing the tools I've used to successfully stop drinking for good. If you value your life, relationships and employment you would do well to address the problem today. It will without question be the best decision you ever make. I am a living example of that fact.

Rob Maggs is a reformed alcoholic dedicated to self improvement and personal development. He is a Software Developer and Web Designer based on the Isle Of Anglesey in the United Kingdom.

How to Quit Smoking Instantly

You might disagree what I'm going to tell you, but the truth of the matter is I did it myself without any use of medical support.

For more than 25 years I was a chain smoker, consuming more than two packs a day. That's a normal for me. Sometimes I consumed three packs the whole night when I played music during invitations to provide entertainment to fiestas in our place, the Philippines.

Yes, being a Catholic country, the Philippines has lots of fiestas and holidays. During fiestas, every town or barrios needs the services of musicians to entertain visitors, especially during vesper day dances.

So, musicians are in demand during these occasions.

Me, being a band player always got the best deal to give music to every fiestas in our place. During night time, were most of these occasions are held, is cold and smoking is the only remedy to quench the cold environment.
                        That's where I consumed around three packs the whole night.

How I stopped smoking is the one I'm going to share with you, right now.
Are you really serious to STOP smoking?

Well, I know you're excited to know how I stopped smoking instantly and how you can do it too.

Here they are...

1. Crush a single stick

One time I was suffering from a smokers cough for almost one month. Any medication I takes but to no avail. I couldn't sleep sometimes when the cough attacks. I was really, really mad at my cough and immediately I connected the cigarette to the cough I was suffering. I got one stick, and I immediately crushed it and says, "I hate you, I hate you, I hate you" crushing the single stick into small pieces and thrown in the trash can. You can crush more than what I did if you think you're not comfortable with one stick. It depends to your decision.

2. Do away from cigarette smoke

Sometimes I was enticed to smoke when I smell the cigarette smoke especially in public places. What I did, I leave the place immediately and look for a place where no one smokes. I did this routine for more than six months. After this period, I can already mingle with people who smoke without being enticed with their smoke. I already passed through the critical period of adjustment.

3. Keep busy

When I feel like smoking, I see to it that I have to do something to make myself busy. I used to do heavy work like cutting grasses, lifting heavy loads, jogging in place, or anything that will let me perspire heavily. When I perspire heavily, I am relieve dfrom the craving for cigarette.
4. Drink plenty of water or fruit juice

After perspiring from my physical activities stated in number 3, I drink plenty of water or fruit juice whatever is available to the maximum. Water is the number one body cleansing. I felt I was totally relieved after drinking water. When there is a fresh fruit juice I take it to replace water. Most often I drink more water than fruit juice.

5. Think positive

Thinking positive, what I mean, is I always imagine and focus on the positive side of things. I don't bother myself looking back at the bad experiences I encountered during my period of addiction with cigarette smoking. I always do things that has no connection whatsoever with cigarette. When suddenly cigarette craving comes to my mind, I immediately change course to erase it. Doing things to while away the time to forget cigarette related attention.

6. Eat fruits and vegetables

This is my secret to forget cigarette smoking. I always maintain to have fruit or vegetable with my diet. If there is no fruit available during lean months, I used to eat plenty of vegetables in one setting. Sometimes I'll combine three or five vegetables in one cooking, any kind of vegetable available around I have to used them.

7. Self Discipline

I always hold through to my decision to quit smoking. No amount of enticement or seduction could break my personal decision from my friends who are smokers. During social gatherings or simple get together, I could not escape to mingle with smokers. But, because of my strong belief not to smoke again, I strictly adhere to my decision to be non-smoker, and I can withstand the strong pressure. To me, that's self discipline.

8. Ask Divine Help

Believe me, whatever sect do you belong, I know you agree that there is an Almighty God that intervenes our lives. For me being a Christian, totally believe that Divine help reinforces my desire to stop smoking. When cravings for cigarette sets in, I closed my eyes and pray to God that I may be strong enough to resist temptation. And it really works.

If you're serious to stop smoking, I encourage you to follow what I did. There's no need of any medical help. Just stick to what you believe can do away with cigarette smoking.

Give yourself a try what I've done.

If I've done it, and so you can do it too. Just be determined and don't stop until you achieve what you desires!

And if ever you've succeed with your "stop-smoking-plan" please send me a note and ask your permission to include you in my testimonies for smokers who've stop smoking without the use of medical help.

I want more people to be aware about the effect of cigarette smoking to our lives.

Let us advocate "stop smoking" to those people who are desirous to be released from the chain of cigarette addiction.

Together, with our common efforts to help them, we can do it!

Cris Ramasasa, Freelance writer, writes about home gardening and Internet marketing tips. You can get a copy of his latest ebook "Discover How to get started in Flower Gardening" and "Vegetable Gardening Made Easy", also get lots of tips, Free articles, and bonuses at:

4 Ways To Get Rid Of Shyness

By Peter Murphy 

Is shyness a sign of lack of self-confidence? Maybe. For some people, shyness can be rooted from the fact that they do not have enough faith in themselves to have the ability to face other people. For others, on the times that their insecurities resurface, they feel that they are not good enough to interact or speak with other people and this is when shyness sinks in.

If you have always envied that person in your office that is everyone's best friend, or if you just wish that you were as good a public speaker as the most admired politician - then you need to get rid of shyness now! Below are some useful tips on how you can get rid of shyness:

1. Go out and mingle.

If you are always cooped up in that lonely apartment of yours, how will you have the chance to mingle and meet other people. If your social life is limited to the friends that you have had since you were kids, then you are not giving yourself the opportunity to broaden your horizons. Going out and mingling is the number one way to get rid of your shyness since it will give you a chance to try and feel as comfortable as possible when in the company of a new set of friends.

2. Mind your posture, smile and try to at least look relaxed in the company of others.

If you look rigid, if you are always staring afar, or if you always keep your arms closed to yourself, these are dead giveaways that you do not want to talk and mingle. Your body language says a lot about the way that you feel at the moment. If you always keep your arms crossed and you hardly smile or glance at the crowd, you may even give out the impression of being rude when in fact, you are just trying to get over your shyness.

When in a party, for example, smile the minute that you walk into the room. Try to look as relaxed as you can on the outside so that others will not feel that you are uncomfortable in their company. Nobody will guess what you are thinking anyway, and they will not feel your shyness or nervousness as long as you maintain a relaxed front.

3. Go to personality development classes.

If you do not have the discipline or the will to try and get rid of your shyness by yourself, a personality development class will be of great assistance to you. Here, you will learn how to walk, talk, dress and behave when in the company of coworkers, superiors and even your friends. By taking classes, you will gain a lot more confidence and you will have professional tips on how to get rid of your shyness and basically learn to feel better about yourself in general.

The investment will surely be worth it in the end because you will gain enough confidence to get over your insecurities and self-doubts and reach your goal of overcoming shyness.

4. Understand that getting over a deep-seated shyness may take some time, but it is workable and there are different solutions for getting over shyness - depending on the personality that you have.

What works for one may not necessarily work for you. Sometimes, no matter how many self-help books you read about overcoming shyness, all these ideas in your head will not necessarily work for you. If one method fails, try another one. Do it one step at a time. If your first 'public outing' to overcome shyness is a disaster, try moving one step back by practicing in a more intimate environment. No matter how tiring a trial-and-error process may sound like to you, at the end of the day, reaching your goal of fighting against shyness will be worth all the effort.

With these tips, you can slowly get rid of shyness so that you can have more meaningful social and professional relationships and start feeling better about yourself.

Peter Murphy is a peak performance expert. He recently produced a very popular free report: 10 Simple Steps to Developing Communication Confidence.

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Cry If You Must

By Grace Planas

"The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other aorgans weep..."
Henry Maudsley

Do you sometimes feel so choked that you need to just pour it out? Why is it that many say they feel a lot better after a good sob?

Tears and Crying are not just for the lonely and the grieving. There are tears of laughter, manipulative tears, theatrical years, and tears caused by the elements that come in contact with our eyes.

Tears and crying are generally associated with anger and sadness. We have to remember that pent up emotional and psychological hurts do not simply seethe inside. They need to find a way out. But while they're churning within your system, your body is producing stress-related chemicals that are physiologically toxic.

A reasonable amount of crying can do the works. A good cry calms nerve-racking tremors in your body during or after a tensed situation. It can save you from mumbling curses or becoming violent which you might just regret later on.

Tears Under Study

Tom Lutz, professor of English at the University of Iowa and author of 'Crying: 
the Natural and Cultural History of Tears, states that there are three types of Tears;

First, Psychogenic Lacrimation which refers to emotional or psychic tears. It is our response to emotional triggers emanating both from external source like pain, broken romance or internal source such as self realization, etc. When emotions make themselves felt, the nervous system fuels the cranial nerves and sends the message to the tear glands. Crying then results.

Second are Basal Tears. These are continuous tears that moisten the eyes. They barely generate visible drops since they either evaporate between blinks or are drained thought the Punta, the small openings at the nose end of each eyelid and eventually to the nose.

The third type is Reflex tears which act whenever smoke, onion vapors, and 
other irritants get in the eyes. Still others wrote that Emotional tears are one form of Reflex tears where only the stimulus differs.

William Frey II, Ph.D. a Biochemist at the St. Paul- Ramsey Medical Center in Minneapolis and one of the world's few tear experts, literally collected tears to chemically examine their contents. Tears caused by onions (reflex tears) contained 98% water while emotional tears contained more toxins.

Examinations also revealed tears contain endorphin, the brain's natural pain killer, whose properties are similar to morphine that can modulate pain, other sensations, and lift up mood. Tears also release prolactin and ACTH (pituitary hormone) in response to stress.

Tears are salty, watery secretions that constantly lubricate, moisten, cleanse, and protect eyes from infection and irritants. Tears also possess oils and mucus that form a thin film to protect the eyes' surface.

Studies further indicate that tears contain proteins, enzymes, lipids, metabolites, sugar and electrolytes, potassium, manganese, and leucine-enkephaline.

Teardrops have also been found to be caused by the clogging of the nasolacrimal ducts, which are passages at the back of the nose.

The stream of tears that run down our cheeks is a no nonsense fluid. Tears contain a wealth of information on its usefulness, composition, and our body system's reaction to internal and external stress. Its efficacy is unquestionable.

Not everyone though believes in the noble purpose of crying.

British Biologist Charles Darwin concluded in his book, The Expression of Emotions in Man and Animals, that weeping served no purpose; that is, it is 'an incidental result' of the pressure we put on our face when we twist our face. The same thing happens when we are upset, happy, laughing or sneezing, all pointing to muscle contraction. In the same way that infants contract their faces when upset, the pressure placed upon the lachrymal gland forces the gland to squeeze tears out.

Still others aver that crying, in earlier times, is less of a psychological and physical cathartic experience than initially thought; instead, crying only increases emotional and physical tension.

David Goleman, author of Emotional Intelligence states: "While crying can break spells of sadness, it can also leave the person still obsessing about the reasons for despair. The idea of a 'good cry' is misleading; crying that reinforces rumination only prolongs misery."

Yet Frey strongly suggests that crying is a means of expelling a range of excess chemicals and protein from the body. Crying, like urination and defecation, is simply one of the body's ways of excreting wastes.

Belief in the favorable effects of crying can be traced thousands of years ago. In his Catharsis Theory, Aristotle inferred that crying at drama 'cleanses the mind' of suppressed emotions by a process of 'catharsis,' where a reduction of distress takes place by releasing the emotions.

Countless of other researchers believe in crying as one of the human's tools in coping and in being able to maintain physical and emotional health balance. It's no miracle then that you often will feel lighter after a crying spree. 'It was a good cry,' one may say.

Although there are countless ways of paring the effects of negative emotions, 
crying is the most expeditious and convenient option for restoring equilibrium within
 when you are emotionally aching, sort of a first aid tool to buffer the initial shocks that often accompany emotionally straining circumstances.

Simply crying may not resolve issues, dissolve grief or heal old wounds at once. However, once you realize the oodles of accumulated stress chemicals that have built up and still continue to build up, you'll be grateful for this wonderful gift of the human's capacity to expel these poisons.

You don't need to be a scientist to prove that there is comfort after a good cry. Crying, like an intimate conversation with a friend, makes it easier for you to handle emotional ordeals when you feel you just cannot take them anymore.

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Saturday, August 14, 2010

Psychology: Learning to fail can bring success


Have you avoided a challenge rather than risk failure?

Most of us have done that. We have a fear of experiencing failure. Yet, we also know it would be foolish to expect to win and succeed at everything we do. Our emotion has us in fear of things our reason knows are inevitable and even normal. There seems to be a disconnect between our emotion of fear and our intellectual reason.

For some people the emotional fear of failure is so great it severely limits their ability to succeed in life. They set unrealistically high expectations for themselves and believe that anything less than success at those levels is failure.

Carol Dweck studied such perfectionist tendencies in school-age children. She studied bright children for whom school work and grades came easily.

They were the top of their class and were often told they were smart or even brilliant. Problems surfaced for these children when they faced challenges and adversity in areas in which they did not excel. If work did not come easily and there was a real possibility of less than stellar performance, these children would avoid the challenge. The few that did not avoid the challenge would become hypervigilant in their work and extremely nervous in fear of not attaining perfection.

Adults with these perfectionist tendencies set up unrealistic goals for themselves. They overload their schedules with endless work which induces high levels of stress. Not only do they impose such standards on themselves but they often do so of their colleagues as well.

The first step to overcoming the problem of ‘fear of failure’ is to realize the toll it is taking on you and on those you work with. The price you pay is in your peace of mind and your struggles with work. If failure is inevitable and you are worried about avoiding it, then you will be living with high levels of stress. In addition, you will be overly invested in making sure every aspect of your work is perfect, and it may make you feel the need to go over and over it multiple times while avoiding completion.

THE FIRST STRATEGY to use after realizing the problem is to change your frame of mind from goals of perfection and universal approval to striving for excellence and doing the best you know you can. That means not focusing on the end goal all the time but on the effort you put in daily and recognizing the small accomplishments along the way. It is also necessary to accept, to understand and even value the fact that failures are an important part of the process. They are valuable learning opportunities.

For parents it means they should learn to encourage gifted children’s efforts rather than only their abilities or performance. It may seem counterintuitive, but praise of their talent is detrimental to someone with a fear of failure if it is not accompanied with praise for their effort.

The advice I have given to many a parent of such children is to emphasize the effort that went into an accomplishment rather than the result. Rather than saying, “It’s great that you got an A- in that course,” a parent should say “It’s because of your hard work studying and reviewing that you were able to get an A- in that course.” There needs to be a link between the work, the effort, and the result. If school work is too easy, then challenges need to be found.

Your approach to accepting failure is relevant in the workplace as well. Seth Godin is one of the most heralded and brilliant online marketing experts. He not only emphasizes the importance of accepting failure in order to achieve success, but he advocates the need to embrace your failure in order to do significant work and succeed. In many of the successful companies he ran, Godin included failed attempts in the corporate culture. People were encouraged to fail because it was a sign they were willing to take risks of doing something special.

In fact, he said that in one company he called two employees for a negative review because there was nothing they failed at in the past 12 months. For Godin, not to fail means not pushing the envelope or daring to do things that would make an impact. It is a sign you have settled for a safe way out. You have settled for mediocrity. One of the key strategies to overcoming “fear of failure” is to consider failure as a learning experience. In his endless struggle to create the light bulb, Thomas Edison said: “I have not failed; I just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” You must see the pitfalls and failures as stepping stones to learn from. If you can see your failures as lessons learned, and appreciate the small successes on your way to a greater goal, you will achieve success.

The writer is a positive clinical psychologist who helps clients in his Jerusalem office and gives workshops on positive psychology to businesses and organizations.

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Thursday, August 5, 2010

Backward Goal-Setting

Using Backward Planning to Set Goals

If your goal is to become an account director within the next five years, where do you start your planning process? Or if your team needs to redesign the company's organizational structure, where do you begin?

In planning, most of us would usually start building our plan from start to finish. What do you have to do first, second, third, and so on? And by what date does each step need to be completed?

This is a solid form of Personal Goal Setting that works very well. When combined with the Golden Rules of Goal Setting, you have a motivating formula that can help you actively move yourself forward.

A New Approach

However, there's another simple but lesser-used method of goal setting that can be equally as powerful.

It's called backward planning, backward goal-setting, or backward design, and it's used quite often in education and training. The idea is to start with your ultimate objective, your end goal, and then work backward from there to develop your plan. By starting at the end and looking back, you can mentally prepare yourself for success, map out the specific milestones you need to reach, and identify where in your plan you have to be particularly energetic or creative to achieve the desired results.

It's much like a good presentation, when the presenter tells you where he's headed right at the beginning. Then, as the presentation unfolds, it's easy for you to follow the concepts and think critically about what's being said. If you have to figure out the main points as they come, your energy is often used up by just trying to keep up.

The Backward Planning Process

Here's how it works:
  1. Write down your ultimate goal. What specifically do you want to achieve, and by what date? 

    Example: "By January 1, 2015, I will be the key accounts director for Crunchy Chips International."
  2. Then ask yourself what milestone you need to accomplish just before that, in order to achieve your ultimate goal. What do you have to do, and by when, so that you're in a position to reach your final objective?

    Example: "By September 30, 2013, I will successfully complete the executive training program offered by Crunchy Chips International."
  3. Then work backward some more. What do you need to complete before that second-to-last goal?

    Example: "By March 1, 2013, I will submit my application for the executive training program, outlining my successes as a key accounts manager, and I will be accepted into the program."
  4. Work back again. What do you need to do to make sure the previous goal is reached?

    Example: "By January 1, 2013, I will complete my second year as a key accounts manager with Crunchy Chips International, and I will earn the prestigious Key Accounts Manager of the Year award."
  5. Continue to work back, in the same way, until you identify the very first milestone that you need to accomplish.

    Example: "By January 1, 2012, I will complete my first year as a key accounts manager with Crunchy Chips International, and I will be rewarded for my performance by gaining responsibility for clients purchasing over $10 million per year."

    "By January 1,2010, I will be promoted to key accounts manager with Crunchy Chips International, and I will have responsibility for clients purchasing over $1 million per quarter."
When you read a backward plan, it doesn't look much different from a traditional forward plan. However, creating a backward plan is VERY different. You need to force yourself to think from a completely new perspective, to help you see things that you might miss if you use a traditional, forward-looking chronological process.

This can also help you avoid spending time on unnecessary or unproductive activities along the way. Furthermore, it highlights points of tension within the plan, showing where you'll need to be particularly creative to make the next step successfully.

Key Points

On the surface, backward planning doesn't seem much different from traditional goal-setting processes. You start with a basic vision, and then you ask yourself what needs to be done to achieve that vision. You can read your plan from the beginning to the end, or from the end back to the beginning.
Backward planning, however, is more than reversing the direction of your traditional plan. It's about adopting a different perspective and, perhaps, identifying different milestones as a result. It's a great supplement to traditional planning, and it gives you a much fuller appreciation of what it may take to achieve success. After all, the more alternatives you have, the better your final plan will likely be.

Sunday, August 1, 2010

Attack Before Getting a Checkmate

by Saalik Siddikki

Attack life, it's going to kill you anyway. -- Steven Coallier

Have you ever paused for a moment and pondered, in the hustle bustle of everyday hectic activities that life is going to kill you anyway. There is no doubt about it.  What only matters is span of time.  Stop in the middle of your tracks right away and check your performance.  Ask yourself bluntly:

  • What were your goals?

  • When and where did you start pursuing your goals?

  • What tracks did you choose towards your destiny?

  • What luggage did you take with you and how much is left now?

  • Did you have any companions or your left alone to conquer the world?

  • What milestones came your way and where did you move from there?

  • Have you achieved any single goal or more?

  • Are you satisfied with your journey towards your destiny?


Have you been just wandering around, only doing window shopping, killing time, joining and quitting jobs merely to make both ends meet and wasting your energies purposelessly in futile exercises?

It is only you, indeed, who could answer these questions to determine your current status.

Suppose, if you say that you have achieved all or most of your goals, then what?  Will you be spending the rest of your life huddled up in the comfort zone of your fulfilled dreams and desires?  I don’t think you would think on these lines.  No successful person does.

On the contrary, if you are one of those who could not achieve anything in life and have fallen victim to complacence and self-pity, then you certainly need to take a revolutionary step to get out of this state of mind that is eroding your remaining ambition, enthusiasm and fervor.

Remember, you are never out of the battleground of life till your last breath.  In that case you cannot take risk of ignoring the surroundings where everybody is fighting for his/her own survival and there is a definite probability that someone attacks you before you could raise your defending shield.  What to do then?  Should you take out your sword of revenge and start killing others?  No, I didn’t mean that.

The only point that I intend to convey to you is that you should not become the scapegoat of circumstances.  Don’t kill anyone to make your way forward towards survival, but then, also never get assaulted in ignorance.

What is life?  Composition of opportunities - sometimes recurring and sometimes new – giving you a chance to avail, exerting every drop of your energy and doing as best as you can.

If no opportunity comes your way, create one for yourself.  Do your best on every frontier as if this is the last battle of your life and see how victories pile up behind you raising you to the zenith of achievements and gratification.

That is exactly what it means to attack life.