A huge SUCCESS and ACHIEVEMENT

- Think Succeeded - had not occurred in a flash of a moment, nor is it the outcome of some brainstorming.  Personally I feel that it has grown out of the fertile land of positive thinking.  I have already written somewhere else that all the credit of a change in my thinking pattern goes to Anthony Robbins.  I read only one of his books, 'Mind Power', back in 2004 and applied some of its contents to get rid of migraine and succeeded.

And quite mysteriously, I have been swimming through the stormy waters of unfavourable circumstances since 2004.  I lost my job, sold property to start business and lost everything on the morning of 28th January, 2008.  And then there was a long battle with the damn suicidal depression that almost devastated me physically, spiritually, psychologically and intellectually as well.  And I am one of those bravest people on earth who overcome their suicidal depression without any medication or consultation with a medical expert.  That is God's greatest blessing. 

(Hey, hey, hey - - - please do not take a pity on me, I really hate that.  I am just narrating the facts, not crying over the spilt milk.  Should you feel interested, please move the cursor to your right. There is a page titled as 'You must read this first' under SPECIAL PAGES.  I owe you a special prayer if you do so!)

If you have time and interest, I would like you to please follow me right from the very first post to the latest one and derive a conclusion whether I deserve to be labelled as a SUCCESS and ACHIEVER or not.

Personally I have started considering myself a huge SUCCESS and ACHIEVER because of the mail that I received from an Australian gentleman last week.  He writes:

'Dear Mr. Saalik, I am a 66 year old person living only with my dog 'XYZ'.  My children abandoned me after the death of my loving wife.  

Before I happened to visit your blog today, I had already had the last talk of my life with XYZ.  Life had become so painful for me.  Then I turned on the computer and started net surfing to find someone who could adopt my dog after my death - and found your blog.  I read your story and other articles and have just told my XYZ 'you are so unlucky that I've got another friend in the other side of the world'.

Some of my friends keep asking me about how much I am earning from my blogs.  Till writing this, I have not earned a single cent from any of my blogs nor is it my ultimate goal.  I need to earn a lot to fulfill my children's dreams that they sacrificed for my failed ambitions and adventures.  But I have other plans for achieving monetary targets.  I am studying and learning internet / affiliate marketing.  I welcome any helping suggestions in this regard.

Perhaps my friends measure my success in terms of money whereas I measure it through the achievement that I have mentioned above.

What do you say?  Please share your feelings and thoughts to inspire others.  Thank you. 

God protect you from all failures, mishaps, diseases, tensions, depression, suicidal thoughts, shattered dreams and hopelessness.

Power of Negative Thinking with Positive Attitude

LET GOD FILL THE EMPTY SPACE

It goes without saying that a positive thinker sees the glass half filled whereas a negative thinker sees it half empty.

Oh, suppose you have a half filled glass, what now?  Should you keep it half filled and half empty and for how long?

The day before yesterday I was sitting with a friend.  I was drinking my cold drink from a bottle using straw.  My friend had his drink poured in an imported glass.  He had already finished half of his drink when his young niece, about 4, came over, picked the glass and finished the drink.

We both watched her silently and hoped that she would leave now, but she did not.  Instead, she asked his uncle, my friend, to fill it again for her!  My friend’s sister came, grabbed the kid’s hand and took her away.  But, the story did not end there.  We completed our talk and I returned home.

Now while I am typing this article, a half filled glass of water on my desktop CPU has arrested my attention.  It is factually this glass of water that has triggered me to initiate writing this article.

I am still thinking about the kid.  Why did she ask my friend to re-fill the glass?  Very simple, she felt that she could drink more.  I don’t know whether she got a re-filled glass or not but, that little rascal taught me a great lesson that I would like to share with you.

My understanding the matter is that if we have a half-filled glass, we should not remain complacent with it.  We should rather try to empty it as fast as we can and think about how to re-fill it again, of course legitimately!

The Creator has set a definite example for us to follow.  And that is the process of evolution which confirms that everything is on the move towards a certain level of growth.  I have been sitting in my chair, before my computer, for the last two hours but, in reality, I have moved 7200 seconds ahead of where I was 120 minutes ago. 

Time is not the same at 1:15 A.M. where it was at 11:15 P.M.  The air is not the same, neither the temperature nor the humidity.  Even my aura must have undergone many changes during this short span of time.  And the age of the whole universe has also decreased (or increased) by two hours and moved further closer to the dooms day.   

So, our state of being complacent with the half filled glass does not mean that everything has come to a standstill.  It is rather us who have remained behind by not finishing the glass and seeking more to re-fill it.  Our complacence solely means one thing that we do not have a desire, a passion or obsession to achieve more in life.

Just imagine what would happen if all the people, since the arrival of Adam and Eve on this earth, would act complacently?  We would still be living in the prehistoric age looking for huge leaves to cover our bodies and exploring caves for a save overnight sleep.

What will happen if we change our angle of vision to that of negative thinkers?  I am still watching my half empty glass and thinking to finish it quickly.  Here I go; the half filled glass is fully empty.  Now it is impossible for me to continue writing.  So, I am going to refill it again but this time with something better like cold milk. 

Oh, please wait.  I won’t leave your thirst for learning unquenched.  The conclusion of all this talk is that if we do not empty our half filled glass, we may not think about refilling it with something better.  Does it also imply that people given half filled glass are actually blessed with a stronger passion to find ways to re-fill it?  I think this is what God likes them to do.

Whatever you possess, physically, intellectually or spiritually, just consume it and share it with others so that God conceives a better idea of how to fill the space again and with something better.  This is also a kind of attitude of gratitude for what we are blessed with and a surefire way to further growth in every sense of the word.

Your learning something and sharing it with others or earning money and spending it on the neediest ones means you put yourself before God in a position where He does not leave the empty space unfilled.  It is against His own system. Try the formula and be gratified.

The power of negative thinking also works this way.

Drink the Half Filled Glass and Fill the Full Empty

Conquering Depression As a God's Warrior

Losing business, job, a loved one, broken relationships, a serious disease or any other setback in life could make a person tense and eventually trigger depressive feelings.

The full-blown depression is a series of episodes of a number of symptoms that occur frequently or infrequently for some time and for different reasons.

These symptoms range from the feelings of being neglected, failed, abandoned, lost, maltreated, used, abused, degraded, insulted, humiliated and hated.  Some or all of these feelings consequently result in different apparent symptoms like:

Anger

Sadness

Distress

Despondence

Nervousness

Feeling Guilty

Seeking Solitude

Extreme Lethargy

Insomnia or Increased Sleep

A Sudden Urge to Weep or Cry

Detachment from Social Activities

No Hunger or Excessive Hunger

Loss or Increase in Weight

Lack of Interest in Life

Suicidal Thoughts

If and when any of the above or similar symptoms appears, a lot depends on the person who experiences these negative emotions and thoughts and equally on those who are close to him/her like family, relatives, friends, colleagues and acquaintances.

The victim of depression can handle the crisis if he/she has some prior knowledge about it and realizes the effectiveness and importance of positive thinking.

It is normally advised by the experts that if any five of the above symptoms keep disturbing a person for about two weeks, he/she must consult with the family doctor or a specialist and seek help.

However, if the victim does not feel comfortable with doctors or psychiatrists and symptoms persist, he/she can get rid of it through different methods tested and applied by many individuals. 

The writer is also one of those exceptional people who fall victim to the severe type of suicidal depression, due to total loss of investment in business that resulted in immediate bankruptcy. 

In case of not taking any psychiatric treatment and medication, the victim of depression can certainly overcome it through the following surefire strategies:

Be the warrior of God

Rest assured that The Creator loves you more than anyone else in the whole universe.  What He simply wants is to see you face the challenges of life like a brave warrior.  Looking at things with this angle of vision means that you have got to fight back as a warrior of God to defeat hyper tension and depression.

God loves to see you stand up on your own like parents enjoy their crawling baby to learn standing up in spite of falling again and again.

If you understand this reality, your triumph over depression is definite.

Be positive to the extent of obduracy

This tendency is the most powerful weapon not only against depression but any crisis in life.  Obduracy, here, does not mean to be rigid to logic or reality.  It is, in fact, standing firm on your grounds and never let the negative feelings overwhelm you at any cost.

Such obduracy reinforces your resistance against the flood of negative thoughts and emotions that tend to destroy your personal integrity and devastate your self-confidence.

Discover your strengths through self-talk

Self-talk is not an expression of abnormal behaviour.  You will find it most energizing in times of crisis.  The easiest way to explore your inner strengths and vigor is to talk to you at length.  And remember, it is not necessary that you speak words loudly.  You would be communicating with your inner self and the best method of this communication is through deeper thoughts.  Loud words would rather cause a distraction. 

Self talk is close to meditation, but it is not meditation.  You have to be fully awake and aware of your surroundings. You may feel your conscious self standing face to face with the unconscious mind. 

Such an exercise requires very strong conviction in the legitimacy, genuineness and validity of what you are going to do.  The faintest shadow of doubt could cause cracks in your belief and derail your train of thoughts.

Engage yourself in some activity obsessively

What I have learnt from my personal encounter with a suicidal depression is that the quicker you create a long break between two consecutively occurring negative thoughts, the sooner you get out of the sphere of negative energy.  And if you despise taking medicine like me, it is only possible through getting yourself engaged in any positive activity you are obsessed with.

A deep involvement in any activity whether it is reading, playing some sport, internet browsing, writing or doing some creative work, widens the gap between two bombarding negative thoughts, that may devastate your personal integrity and will power, to overcome the nerve-shattering depression.

I discovered that initially an objective internet surfing and lately blogging kept me so much engaged that I forgot, though for some time, all of my problems, tensions and crisis.  Staying at my computer for longer hours, rather for the whole day and whole night except sleeping hours, widened the space between negative thoughts and gave me incredible relief from depressive and negative thoughts.

Keep thinking about the most loved person (s)

This most loved person could be any one from your mother, father, spouse, children, brother, sister or some friend.  There should definitely be at least one single person on earth that you care about.  The one whose peace of mind prevents you from doing anything wrong that could hurt him emotionally, physically or spiritually. 

My depression and disgustingly negative behaviour of some people pushed me to the brink of mental collapse that ultimately results in committing undesirable acts.  I felt myself on the edge of hurting myself or those who were deliberately or unconsciously pushing me into the quagmire of desperation.  I wish they could realize the intensity of the pressure of circumstances from my angle of vision.

Every time I felt close to committing something that I could never have a chance to regret, I thought about my dear daughters.  I do not need any certificate of appreciation from any one, but the truth is my third powerful weapon against the suicidal depression was my love for my daughters.

Push yourself beyond your own limits

Compose all of your energies and strengths to become an aggressive and intense force against the negative emotions and thoughts.  There are very few people who push themselves beyond their own limits and gain victory over all the odds.

You are no exception.  It is a tragedy that you are not aware of your own potential strengths and perhaps it is so because no one has every told you to do so.

Ok, stand up now, and make up your mind, with an unwavering determination to not ever surrender to unfavourable circumstances under any conditions.

The moment you do so, God will express His pleasure with a big wide smile!

How to Succeed in Life

One Point Formula - Never Fly Your Plane on Autopilot

A lot has been and is being said and written on how to succeed in life. Every author has tried his/her best to present the best gist of his/her experience and figment of creative imagination on the subject of success in life.


Professional gurus have laid down golden rules, to which nothing more of fundamental nature could further be added except improved techniques and creative ideas, for the younger generations to follow and achieve their goals. Hundreds of thousands of people, around the globe, pay heed to their advice and find their way to success.

Nevertheless, my personal setbacks, failures, losses, drawbacks, shortfalls, retreats and weaknesses have taught me just one point formula for achieving any goals, targets and success in life and that is ‘never ever fly your plane on autopilot’.

Not flying your plane on autopilot emphatically means that you have to engage all of your devices, gadgets and tools in keeping the plane stable and correctly on the right path to your destiny.

Since you personally hold the control of your plane, it is essential that all of your instruments are in working order and handily in your access too.

Now the question is what devices, gadgets and tools you need to steer your plane on the path to success? These are:

A concrete belief that God wants you to succeed

A clearly defined destiny or goal

Your obsession that works as a fuel

Appropriate knowledge and skills

A strong conviction in the legitimacy of your cause

Positive thinking

Necessary external resources

Self confidence

Realizing the value of time

Perseverance

Patience

Cool-headedness

Unwavering enthusiasm

Unbending will power

Mental stability

Unperturbed focus of thoughts

Habit of hard working

No self-pity

The list is always extendable.

By leaving the plane of your life on autopilot you become a little weary, sluggish and lethargic and fall to slumber of defused enthusiasm in the comfort zone of complacency. All this adds up to changing your attitude from active to passive which is certainly a sign of ultimate disaster.

This is absolutely not what The Almighty God likes us to do. He has attached the whole universe with the wheel of change and change requires movement. Movement needs force and energy emanating from the human mind that is the most amazing creation of The Greatest Creator.

Taking solace in your comfort zone means causing the wheel of change to stop i.e. to restrict your mind to think creatively and thus allowing the plane of your life to deviate from its requisite path.

A little deep thinking will convince you that success in life is basically attached with realizing, understanding and applying the one point formula ‘never ever fly your plane on autopilot’.

Always Radiate Positive Energy

I consider human mind one of the most amazing creations of The Creator because it has been gifted with an incredible ability of creating unique things from nothingness.

It is an undeniable stigma that almost all the Muslim intellectuals, social reformers, thinkers, educationalists, philosophers and religious scholars have lamentably and shamelessly ignored the evolution of human mind and intelligence during the last 500 years or, to be more time-specific, since the awakening of Europe.

Even the rulers of oil-rich Arab states criminally ignored their responsibility of establishing research institutions parrallel to the prestigious Western schools and universities. They spend billions of dollars, collectively, to maintain their own luxurious lifestyle, but none of them posseses the wisdom of U.S. President George W. Bush senior (though he is not a role model for me by any criteria or understanding).

"During the 1990s U.S. President George Herbert Walker Bush declared a decade of research to center on neuroscience. The resulting Decade of the Brain was well publicized inter-US agency initiative that responded to the declaration. The two lead federal agencies in that initiative were theLibrary of Congress and the National Institute of Mental Health (part of the larger National Institutes of Health. Although the initiative did not receive the level of funding as the Human Genome Project, it did serve to catalyze significant advances in our understanding of the brain particularly in the context of brain diseases. The Decade of the Brain project was followed in 2001 by a Decade of Behavior Project that also attempted to bring together scientists, this time to understand how human behavior emerges. (Wikipedia)

And now another research project is on the drawing board. At the dawning of the Decade of the Mind (2010 - 2020), possibilities and consequences for a better life in the future will be explored by a transdisciplinary group of scientists and policy makers. The meeting will be focussed on three topics: Education, Social Policy, and Health. It will be held in the heart of the European Union (EU).

Thank Lord some people have undertaken Mind Science as a profession and, beside raking huge monetary benefits, imparting some knowledge on mind and polishing the mental abilities of their clients who could afford to pay their charges. They opted to learn Reiki, Yoga, Mind Science and offer their expertise to those who are interested. So far so good but my question is why can't we have many people like Dr. Muiz, Anthony Robbins, Brian Tracy and Deepak Chopra in the whole Muslim world? Why can't we establish a research institution with the help of Arabian sheikhs on Mind Science.

We must be, at least I'm, grateful to the Western scholars who have not put any restrictions on their research work or kept it secret like Muslim scholars did about 700 years ago which was one of the reasons for their fall.

I'm not a degree / holder on Mind Science, Reiki, Self-Improvement, Personality Development, Positive Thinking. However, it is my passion to share, whatever I've studied, learnt and applied to myself, with people particularly Pakistani young men and women.

I would be gratified if Pakistani college students understand the importance of bringing change in their pattern of thinking which will ultimately lead them to their destiny of success.

My message to all visitors and readers of this blog is to " Please, please, please make Positive Thinking an identity of your character and personality and radiate Positive Energy under all curcumstances and conditions.

Allah bless you with more health, peace of mind

True Love - A Weapon of Mass Destruction

They never found a single weapon of mass destruction and they never would because it did not exist in the form of a gun, bomb or missile. The real weapon of mass destruction has been in existence since the creation of this world. Yes, true love is that weapon and it exists in abundance.

The word mass destruction should not distort your opinion about true love. First of all we have to determine just what true love is. Every intellectual, writer, sociologist and thinker has passionately and justifiably expressed his/her feelings, thoughts and understanding about true love.

In spite of all the popular definitions, there are still misconceptions about this pure emotion. Simply saying "I love you baby" or "I love you too honey" does not imply that two persons are glued to each other with true love. It is a common observation that people, looking for weekend partners also express their physical needs through these words.

Is true love a commodity, like anything else, to sell or buy on Amazon? No, it is not by any sense of any phrase. It is not simply a warm passion. It is, as Laala Gull says, "a continuous process of going through expressions, emotions, states of mind and behaviour, all focused on selfless caring and sharing everything inside out to make life a rejoicing experience".

It is solely the fire of true love that keeps you warm in the cold weather of sheer rigidity of the whole world, an obsession that always comes to rescue while you are stuck up in the stormy waters of depressive moments, a gust of cool breeze that refreshes your whole existence with the fragrance of the aura of your loved one.

So, how comes that true love is a weapon of mass destruction? In its absolute form it radiates the most effective and highly powerful waves of energy, encircling your sphere of existence, and repel devastating onslaught of all the negative forces. It acts like an invulnerable fortress to save you from internal disintegration or emotional collapse and prevents you from falling victim to external pressure.

It is a kind of madness, an insanity that obdurately resides within you forever after you first let it occupy your heart, mind and soul. It is never restricted to mere physical attraction, congeniality of thoughts and opinions, mutual understanding and similar likes or dislikes. It is an expression of spiritual chemistry, connecting two units of energy having the same types of molecules, atoms, neutrons, protons and photons.

It never pushes you to the point of repentance or regret. If it does, it is not true love. It is truly the hub of all of your thoughts, emotions, feelings, actions, behaviour and character. It is your identification card in the crowd of hundreds of thousands of people around you.

And remember true love could not be confined to a relationship between a man and a woman only. The emotions and passion of true love may generate first from within the core of your spiritual self and seek to be expressed to someone later. It may also remain unexpressed for years and years on or even throughout life. To understand this reality requires deep thinking and meditation.

Change Your Life by Changing Angle of Vision

Guess what is the most influential factor that affects every single thing in the universe? No, no. It is not what you are thinking. Please pause here and ponder again.

The biggest factor which has a constant effect on everything is the phenomenon of CHANGE. You can bring an enormous change in your life by changing this process of change.

Yes my dear, CHANGE is occurring every moment of every minute of everyday. Everything in this universe, except the Creator, is moving forward on the path of CHANGE with every fractional bit of time. It is just that most of us do not perceive and realize it and those who do, affect this process of CHANGE using the might of their powerful thoughts and actions. They themselves become a compelling force to bring CHANGE in the lives of others.

Would you not like to be among those exceptional people? You may or may not be another Aristotle, Confucius, Socrates, Newton, Einstein, Edison, Muhammad Ali Jinnah or Bill Gates. But you can be purely YOU. The very first thing you need to bring CHANGE is to discover the true YOU who has unconsciously disappeared in the crowds of lost characters and fake cosmetic personalities.

Wake up now and find a way to escape from the detention of this FORCED EXISTENCE.

Steal a few moments of your time; find a peaceful place to sit down. Close your eyes, take a couple of deep breaths that will help you free your mind from wandering and disturbing thoughts. It is an interesting exercise to sow the invisible seeds of powerful positive thoughts in the fertile land of your mind which would ultimately grow into a huge and visible tree of a new personality and character of the real YOU.

Now imagine as if you are watching your present self from a distance. Let us call it P.S. for your convenience. Look at it thoroughly and analyze its personality traits and characteristics, its habits and activities, its achievements and failures till this moment. Be fair with yourself and ask this P.S. if it is satisfied with its present status as a free and an independent human being. There is a little chance that you get a reply in "yes".

This P.S. may not even look directly into your eyes because it feels unable to get rid of dependence on others, on circumstances, on fate. This P.S. is yearning for freedom but does not have the courage and will power to break the shackles of slavery to lethargy, procrastination and sluggishness. Would you like to let this slave enjoy the taste of freedom, achievement of goals and ultimate success?

Think again, it is an uphill task but not an impossible one. You just need to discover your own potential, abilities, talents and powers which are hidden somewhere deep in the real YOU. The Almighty Allah, God, Bhagwaan has created a universal mind to help you provided you seek this help sincerely and seriously. Have you not read the Koranic verse that says?

" Allah helps those who help themselves "

So, go ahead, all the divine forces are waiting for you to take a Big STEP that would lead you to your Destiny. This Big STEP, at the moment, is your willingness and an unwavering decision to prepare yourself for the CHANGE that may create a little discomfort initially but will ultimately take you closer to achieving your goals.

By the way have you set some goals to achieve? Short-Term Goals, Mid-Term Goals and Long-Term Goals? Write down your goals; devise a plan and go all out to achieve them. See yourself pitched in a battleground surrounded with forces that do not want to see you succeed. Create in your mind a do or die situation.

That is the way to change the process of change. Change always occurs following the pattern of one, two, three... nine and ten. There is always a sequence of happenings that ultimately bring change. You are to reverse this cycle. See yourself as victorious first instead of visualizing how you would fight to win the battle. It is a bit difficult to understand for some people but not an impossible endeavour.

To some it could be like wearing right shoe in left foot and vice versa. Try to experiment with this. It may make you a little uncomfortable in the beginning, but repeating it for a couple of times and remaining that way, rather moving around, would be surprisingly easy. This is what I call changing the process of change.

The more you control the process of change, the easier it would be for you to manipulate circumstances and opportunities at your own will. It simply requires a little tilt in your angle of vision and the whole scenario changes to an incredible extent.

Yes, changing the process of change needs to be initiated with a change in your angle of vision. Go ahead and enjoy the experiment, for you are not going to lose anything. Learning something new at no cost is not a bad bargain. 

The Art of Success - Learn from Ants

God has created and blessed every single person with some special qualities. It is a solemn binding on each and every person to dig deep into his/her inner self to discover the treasure of these qualities.

The mere difference between achievers and non-achievers is the urge to find out their potential talent, aptitude and abilities and to take full advantage of these tools to carve out a character, career and lifestyle.

Where do you prefer to see yourself - amongst non-achievers or failures? Your attitude about your own self is the basic criteria to judge your thinking pattern, characteristics, personality and ultimate destiny.

Tagging yourself with the label of a failure may get you stuck up in the cul-de-sac of negativity, pessimism, self pity, hopelessness and disastrous mental crash. You are not born to let yourself dragged, by the circumstances, to such ending.

I beseech you to please never ever fall victim to above state of mind. I have personally gone through the worst type of depression, hypertension and consecutive nervous breakdowns after losing everything in business due to my blind trust on a partner. Thus, I have better understanding of such feelings and am fully aware of their devastating effects.

Giving up is like raising a wall of hard rocks in your own way that leaves you with no option except banging your head with it. You have to keep reaffirming yourself that your life is not destined to break apart like that.

So, my friends, wake up from the lethargic slumber of self-pity, weary complacence and be your own mentor. Whether you have ever been a leader of even a small group or not, act like a leader and remember leaders do not disintegrate under any pressure.

Being a non-achiever does not imply, by any manner of means, that you can never succeed in life. Not achieving a goal is nothing more than a setback. Many great achievers and conquerors had had setbacks that did not prevent them from recollecting their energies and moving forward to achieve their definite targets sooner or later.

Redefine your goals, check your arsenal and see what is left of your armaments. Your weaponry comprises a strong belief in God, positive thinking, self confidence, determination to achieve success and an obsession to never surrender. Rearrange them, take a look at the battlefield, and review your mistakes and blunders. You might have ignored insignificant points that would have caused you heavy setbacks.

Should you still need inspiration, motivation and encouragement, go to a nearby garden. Crush a piece of sweet biscuit and spread it on the ground under a tree. You will see a tiny ant pulling and pushing a granule of the biscuit, may be more than twenty times its own size and weight, with utmost madness and obsession. Other ants may also join in the adventure a bit later, but the initiative is usually taken by a single ant that is determined to challenge its potential strength, courage, guts and grit.

Challenge your inner self, with a rock-hard conviction and fervor, like an ant and all the positive forces of the universe would be joining you and paving way for your success.

Four Big Steps to Conquering Depression

Depression is not itself a disease. It is normally characterized by feelings of loneliness, despair, sadness, low self-esteem and self-reproach. It is also tagged with vegetative states like loss of appetite and insomnia (in certain cases increased appetite and sleep) and withdrawal from social contact. If unattended for a long time, it could also lead to aggravated suicidal tendency.

Regardless of the type of depression manifested by various symptoms, a person suffering from this painful phase of agonizing torture can conquer it in four big steps without resorting to medication. These steps are the extract of personal fierce battle with depression.

First Big Step - Self Diagnosis

Personal and social affairs, in these hard times, are becoming more and more difficult to manage and anybody can fall victim to depression for loss of love or a loved one or job and business. It is primarily caused by a combination of factors, such as the person's genes, his biochemical environment, his personal experience and psychological factors.

Whatever the cause is, a self-conscious person can easily notice the initial symptoms before falling victim to depression. Realizing the looming danger and being ready to repel it is like building a fortress and strengthening self-defense before enemy's attack. Such awareness acts as a strong shield to fend off depression.

Second Big Step - Strong Positive Attitude

Having positive attitude is a long process of deep thinking, developing an attitude against self-will and maintaining it against all odds. Positive thinking is a divine blessing in disguise demanding high price from its possessor. However, it pays back in the worst and critical times.

Positive attitude is raised on the foundation of self-esteem, determination, realistic approach and a strong belief in one's positive convictions. It is a fire, which has to be kept burning even in the hailstorm of negative emotions and nerve shattering atmosphere.

A little obduracy in positive attitude is a must to fight back depression. The negative forces are often very strong and can devastate any person's integrity and deprive him of his sanity until they are dealt with the equal retaliation of obdurate positive thinking. A positive thinker should have a strong belief in the powerful effects of positive energy. Positive thinking, if appropriately applied, can devour depressing emotions and suicidal tendency like a vampire.

Third Big Step - Learn and Do Blogging

Is it ridiculous? May be. But it has proved to be a very strong weapon in my personal arsenal to protect me from the killing effects of depression. It took me almost six months to discover an overwhelmingly engaging activity that kept my personal integrity and sanity intact. Yes, after losing everything in business and having been abandoned by most of the friends, I fell prey to disheartening solitude that started nurturing suicidal thoughts.

I joined a social networking platform to express my feelings. However, at the same time I did not want the world to know my weaknesses. So, nobody could gauge the fragility of my state of mind. I posted brief notes to let others know of inner volcanic eruptions and the soul damaging phase I was going through. Nobody bothered to understand the pangs of pain behind my words. And quite contrary to usual perception I took it as my victory.

Then I happened to visit a blog and I learned to create and operate one of my own. I created about ten without making any single one my sole identity. Heavy loans, joblessness, solitude, total failure and a deep feeling of guilt that I had lost everything because of my blind trust on a rascal was dragging me towards suicide.

I tried to keep myself engaged in photography, writing poetry, attending literary circles, spending hours and hours in the company of people who took me as a role model but could not contribute anything in saving me from the worst depressive feelings. Nothing worked really.

My condition was so severe that I came close to having a nervous breakdown three times and a heart attack four times during three months of time. Yet I did not consult a doctor because I had been claiming to be a positive thinker. I did not want to fail in proving the truth of my conviction and belief in positive thinking.

I kept blogging for about six months spending time in irregular updating and creating more blogs without a particular focus on any single one. But this practice kept me deeply engaged. I discovered many interesting blogs created by people suffering from serious diseases and still enjoying life.

So, I can proudly and authentically say that blogging also has its due share in saving my sanity and integrity. The outcome is quite gratifying. I am going to launch my own website very soon.

Fourth Big Step - Have a Strong Belief That God is On Your Side

It was perhaps the fruit of cultivating strong positive thinking that in the worst moments of depression and hypertension God kept a window of hope and light open to me. I got stuck up in the darkest cul-de-sac of circumstances. There was no apparent way out for me.

One thing that I am grateful to God for is the realization of His presence around me even when I felt my faith in Him weakened by the negative emotions, pessimistic thoughts and suicidal tendency.

A person expecting depression must not let the circumstances make any cracks in his faith and trust in God's presence around you. He wants us to dive deep in our inner selves and discover our true strengths and powers with which we can defeat any negative forces of the universe.

With these four Big Steps, any person can conquer not only depression or hyper-tension but also any serious disease, failure, loss and suicidal thoughts. Just keep standing firm to win the fierce inner battle even if you lose on all frontiers. These four Big Steps will not let drown in the quagmire of uncertainity and insanity.

Stand up, move forward to fulfill God's will and find the real you who is going to be a winner at the end of the day!

Depression Or Hypertension? Get Rid of it Through Blogging!

It is said that the first ever web-log, now called blog, was created by some James Monro who was a traveler from Cambridge. He died when his trailer crashed in to a car but luckily, his blog was already posted on the internet. As of December 2007, a blog search engine was tracking more than 112,000,000 blogs. How many more have been added till to date is not confirmed.

The question 'why to blog' should be replaced now with 'why not to blog'. There could be innumerable reasons for blogging from fun blogging to money blogging. However, I would advise people fallen victim to hypertension and depression to learn and do blogging not for any of the above reasons but to change your state of mind from passive to active. I call it action thinking.

It is only you who can bring the train of your normal life back to tracks faster than anybody else could do it for you. Be the master of your own fate. Break the shackles of compulsions, self-pity and feeling deprived. You must not discontinue your medication and do not quit consulting with your doctor until or unless you are an obdurate positive thinker like me.

You may be facing the problem of where and how to spend time. I tell you what to do. Since I have also been through the darkest phase of hypertension and extreme level of depression, I know how difficult it is to avoid inner disintegration and retain one's sanity.

According to recent studies, antidepressant drugs offer little benefits to the patients of milder depression and if taken for longer periods, in case of severe depression, they cause some negative effects too. Psychotherapy has its role in curing depression but it also takes quite a time to achieve positive results.

This gap is to be filled with some constructive activity that could keep the patient engaged for longer hours and thus lengthen the duration of blank spaces between continuous occurrences of nerve-damaging negative thoughts. These spaces have to be filled up with the revival of positive thinking.

To achieve this revival earlier than other methods, go ahead and create a blog on a free blogging platform. Some offer easy-to-follow instructions. Should you still face any difficulty, please take a tour or watch their video or seek help from your family or friends. Even eleven year olds are successfully blogging these days. To a person with a little passive state of mind at the moment, I suggest without any bias to create a blog on blogger dot com for a particular reason that I shall tell you later in the article.

So, you have created a blog and chosen a unique identity of your own, you must think about your favourite subject. It is better if your URL indicates your subject of interest. It could be anything to keep you engaged for hours and hours on. All done, now write the first post. Not necessarily a lengthy one. Rather a short one, say about one to two hundred words, would be enough at this stage. Click the 'Publish post' and hit 'View blog'. Here is your blog for public view. You can make any changes in the format or template later. Here you have to click 'Next blog' at the top middle of your blog.

Their server has randomly selected someone else's blog almost with a similar subject of your blog. Just stay here for a few moments and see if there is anything of your interest. If yes, add it to your favorites or again click 'Next blog'. Keep doing so till you are exhausted. This is the pearl that I discovered out of my curiosity and it opened hundred new doors of wisdom, intellect, knowledge and discoveries to me.

You will be exploring a new world full of sorrow, sufferings, despair, diseases, challenges (some may be more painful and agonizing than yours), excitement, love, happiness, struggle, success and achievements. You will be surprised to see how people around the globe are fighting to win their inner battles and saving their personal integrity. There is no better way to know about people than by this clicking 'Next blog' exercise.

Keeping in view the number of active blogs, only sky is the limit to quench the thirst of your curiosity. It is up to your discretion to merely peruse very personal stories of other people or interact with them by sharing your own. You may not interact with all but you will certainly have feelings of a strong bonding between you and most of them.

I personally did it for weeks and months and now, back on my tracks without any medical treatment or psychiatric consultation, I have chosen blogging, article writing and internet marketing as my future career. The Almighty God has helped me get out of the cul-de-sac of depression, hypertension, desperation, pessimism, failure and feelings of any guilt.

Rest assured that you too or anyone else can also achieve this and force your hypertension or depression to seek solace somewhere else never to intrude your very private inner zone again.

How to Succeed - Take Three Big Steps to Your Destiny

Success is a process of applying certain actions to accomplish clearly defined goals. It is a journey marked with challenges, crossing milestones and constantly moving forward. Success itself is not a destiny. Achievement of goals open up new doors to new horizons to be explored and the process continues.

Even a genius cannot clearly define his final destiny in terms of setting and achieving goals. People who are blessed with a thinking mind keep creating new challenges to test their will power, determination, persistence, guts and courage. It runs in their veins like hot blood. They are born with the habit of deep thinking, striving hard to overcome challenges and achieving success.

Does it mean, then, that others cannot achieve success in life? Of course not. As I said success is a process, anybody who has a vision, clearly defined goals and determination can achieve success by inculcating certain actions and habits. Here are three primary and colossal steps towards achieving success in any field of life. These primary steps are reinforced with further additional small steps.

You do not have to be a genius to take these big steps towards achieving your goals. Before further reading the article, please do a little exercise that would definitely energize your heart and mind.

Just find a peaceful place, sit down in a relaxed posture, close your eyes, do some deep breathing, empty your mind of any disturbing thoughts, focus your whole self on a single point of inhaling positive energy through a divine stream and exhale all the negative energy. This is the beginning of your journey towards success. Making it a habit and routine at the start of every day will change the pattern of your thinking and behaviour to reap a huge crop of success.

Now peruse and understand the significance of these three big steps and plan your very personal journey towards your destiny.

1st Big Step - Goals (Pursuit - Journey)

The very first big step towards your destiny is defining your goals clearly. It is a common practice of most of the successful people to write down their goals. The waves of energy emitting from written words keep charging the batteries of your sub-conscious mind and remind you that you have some commitments, with yourself indeed, to fulfill.

By writing down your goals on a paper, you create four types of actions on the slate of your sub-conscious mind:

1. Your mind's general memory records your goals.

2. Your eyes transfer the images of words to create a reminder in a specific portion of your mind.

3. Your hands memorize the words i.e. your goals. 

4. By speaking the words that you write, you also convey a special message to your listening memory.

So, writing your goals is not simply an action of putting the words on a paper. It is, in fact, a process that ultimately reminds and helps you to stand up and move ahead in pursuit of your destiny. An experiment in Yale School of Law proved this truth decades ago.

Remember that every journey always starts with a goal (a destiny in mind). Otherwise it is nothing more than a purposeless wandering in the jungle of oblivion.

2nd Big Step - Motivation (Fire - Obsession)

The initiation of a journey is a positive sign that indicates your determination to achieve your goals but it does not guarantee that you would reach your destiny. You also need fuel and energy to help you continue moving ahead. This energy comes from motivation (or inspiration). Motivation acts like a fire to keep the engine running and further to keep the vehicle of your ambitious drive moving.

People obsessed with their ideas, targets and goals always seek and find motivation through different means e.g. reading biographies of successful people, watching and following them and deep thinking.

They analyze their actions without giving themselves any grace marks or overlooking their mistakes.

3rd Big Step - Action (Challenge - Determination)

Choosing goals and starting a pursuit cannot be marked with success until and unless the most powerful and dominant force of persistent actions is not applied in the process. Actions are encountered with new challenges and challenges could not be tackled without stubborn determination.

Determination is an expression of strength of mind, will power, fortitude, resilience, guts and grit of a person. Actions fully supported with determination are weapons of destruction. Yes, they devastate all the internal and external negative forces trying to hinder your journey towards destiny.

Achievement of goals is not possible without these three big steps which are also the pillars of the mega structure of your success in any field of life.

5 Differences Between a Dream and a Goal

Dreams and goals are generally considered the same in meanings. In reality, they are not. Promote the status of your dreams to goals. Here is the justifiable answer to why you should do that. There are five basic differences between a dream and a goal as follows:

1. A dream is never tagged with any time limit.

You can wait for the rest of your life to see a dream become reality. Dreams, in plain words, are a manifestation of your desires buried deep under the surface of wishful thinking. Every goal is time oriented.

There are time limits to achieve a goal whether individual or collective, financial or academic. Besides tackling other challenges you also have to overcome the nerve-shattering pressure of breaking certain barriers.

2. If you have a dream, you just relax in a comfort zone and wait to see your dream come true some day, by a stroke of luck.

A dream does not instigate much action thinking. Whereas you do not wait for that some day to achieve a goal. You devise a strategy, a plan as to how to accomplish the specific task within given time without waiting for the lady luck to knock at your door.

3. A dream makes you a passive thinker.

Dream itself is the product of inactive thinking. Your conscious mind has no active role in creating a dream. Your goal turns you into an action thinker. It makes you a triathlon athlete. It keeps you hanging on tenterhooks, restless, twitchy and edgy by kindling a constant fire insatiable hunger within you.

4. A dream is whipped with the cream of hypothetical hopes and expectations.

It is like a low-level stream of cool water silently running down the slopes of tranquility pacifying your emotions and enthusiasm. Whereas a goal fuels your passions, obsession and conviction. It has thundering and lightening effect on your thinking and actions. You do not sit idle until and unless the mountain of challenges and difficulties is not scaled.

5. More dreams emanate from a dream and thus expand the circle of inactivity.

Dreams lead you to a habit of fantasizing inertly. They make you a bit lethargic and procrastinator. Goals circulate in your blood like lava and forces you to explode into action like a volcano. They emit positive and violent energy keeping the level of your blood pressure a little higher than normal.